Blended families can be a challenge, especially when your step-children don’t really like you to begin with. If you do the right things, however, they can become wonderfully close families with lots of love.

What would you do if your young step-daughter admitted to you that she was drinking and doing drugs at school, but told you not to tell anyone? That is what happened to the step-mother in this story, so she called up the school and reported it to them, getting her expelled.

Now the whole family is angry at her for handling it this way. The husband is even against her, largely because she didn’t talk to him about it first and went right to the school. While she claims that she had good intentions, she is also happy that her husband won’t be paying the high tuition for the school anymore.

This is one of those stories where the person is looking for validation, but only makes herself look like a horrible human being. Read it below and see what you think.

AITA for getting my stepdaughter expelled from private Catholic school?

I (26F) married my husband (43M) a year ago.

Ok, let’s see what happens.

His ex wife is in and out of the hospital for COPD, which was triggered by her persistent anorexia.

His youngest daughter is 13 and lives with us when her mom is in the hospital, and sometimes even when she’s not.

Private school can be expensive, but in many cases, it is worth every dime.

My husband is paying an exorbitant amount to send her to private school.

But even at 13, she’s a train wreck and already drinking and doing drugs.

It is not uncommon for the step-mother not to be accepted, especially when she is so much younger.

While her older sister, 18, and their mother refuse to acknowledge my presence except to accuse me of spending more in a month then they all did in a year, my other stepdaughter treats me as her emotional tampon and older sister.

As such, she told me her secret that she keeps alcohol bottles in shoe boxes in her room and asked me not to tell.

Wow, this is a really serious problem, especially at such a young age.

Her friend also gets her cocaine and she keep it in her tampon box.

She’s boarding at school for the summer because select kids can, but her school has a no tolerance policy for alcohol or drugs.

Did she tell her husband? Or just go right to the school?

I end up calling the school administrators and telling them I was concerned by what my stepdaughter confessed. They raided her room and found the stuff and she was expelled.

My husband was furious that his daughter was doing drugs and ended up sending her back to her mother.

This lady definitely sounds toxic to me.

Meanwhile, her mother is calling me a home wrecker and telling her ex husband that I was the toxic one in the situation.

At first I felt righteous because I was telling the school stuff that I felt my stepdaughter was unfairly heaping on me.

It seems like this guy is realizing his mistake.

But after seeing how angry my husband got, to the point where I was there when he left a message on both their phones saying “ Love, your ex husband and ex father”, I’m getting second thoughts.

However, I do feel like my stepdaughter was taking an education she didn’t appreciate or deserve. And since she doesn’t seem to care ago education, she should just go to public school.

AITA?

Does this lady really think she is going to look like the good guy here? She was right to be concerned about her step-daughter, but she handled it all wrong. She should have gone to her husband to deal with this, or at least talked to him first. Instead, she got expelled while also losing any trust she had in the step-daughter. What a mess.

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Read on to see what the people in the comments have to say about this story.

She needed to act like a mother, but instead went the Mean Girls route. It is sad.

This girl needs rehab and counseling. Not expulsion.

She wasn’t trying to help. She just wanted more money.

I agree. She should have just told the father.

This person thinks her husband is even worse than her.

It is hard to imagine how this step-mother thought she was doing the right thing. I really think she was just trying to get her hands on even more money by eliminating the tuition.

If you want to be a good step-mother, this is not the way. Maybe try putting your kids (and husband) first for once and see how that works out for you. Sadly, this family has a lot of issues they need to work through, and with this attitude, I don’t think they are going to make it.