Parenting can be difficult, but it can also be difficult for children who want to kind of parent the parents. What I mean by that, is parenting often involves correcting children’s mistakes and helping them learn from their mistakes. Imagine being a young adult who sees your mom about to make a big mistake, and you want to talk her out of it. What do you do?

In this story, one young woman explains that her parents are no longer together. She thinks her dad and brother are both pretty toxic, but now her brother has moved the dad’s stuff into the mom’s place.

She’s pretty concerned about her mom’s safety, but she’s not sure what she can do, if anything. Is she right to be concerned, or is she overreacting? Let’s read the whole story to decide.

AIO: My brother just moved my dad into my mom’s house and I don’t know what to do

I just found out today (literally right after leaving for work) that my brother brought my dad over with all their stuff and they’re now planning to live at my mom’s house. And honestly, I feel this heavy sense of dread that I can’t shake.

For context, I’ve never had a good relationship with my dad.

Growing up, he was abusive, extremely full of himself, and just overall a toxic person.

He has this way of bringing tension and negativity wherever he goes. Being around him always felt unsafe and exhausting.

Then there’s the brother…

My brother isn’t much better.

He’s an alcoholic and has a lot of the same traits—unpredictable, irresponsible, and honestly just hard to deal with.

The two of them together is a nightmare combination.

Uh-oh!

What really hurts is my mom.

After separating from my dad, she worked so hard to rebuild her life and protect her peace.

For the first time in years, she actually seemed calm and stable.

Now it feels like all of that is about to be undone.

She’s not sure what to do to help her mom.

I’m worried about her—emotionally and mentally—and I hate that this situation was basically forced on her.

It doesn’t feel fair at all.

My sister and I are trying to figure out how to get them out or at least protect our mom, but we don’t even know where to start.

Has anyone dealt with something like this before? What can we realistically do in this situation?

Why would the mom agree to let her ex move in? I don’t understand.

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Let’s see what Reddit suggests.

Here’s some advice.

Another person has questions.

This person doesn’t have a specific suggestion except to do anything.

Here’s some more advice.

What I love about this story is that OP and her sister are both concerned about their mom and want the best for their mom.

What I hate about this story is that the dad and brother are awful and need to stay away.

I’m not sure if OP and her sister live with her mom as well. If they do, could they maybe change the locks or something to lock the brother and dad out? Or, maybe they could leave with their mom, and they could all stay with a friend while they figure things out.

This is a stressful situation.