Health advice can start feeling really overwhelming when someone never seems to stop giving it.

This dental student’s fiancé has always encouraged healthier habits throughout their relationship, and to be fair, she already made major lifestyle changes on her own. She works out consistently, eats well, avoids smoking and drinking, and even lost twenty pounds while surviving grad school stress.

But lately, his focus on “healthy living” has become a lot more intense.

He’s sending her long podcasts about toxins, worrying about mercury and microplastics in her food, and pushing her to replace everything from cookware to cooking oils.

Now she’s starting to wonder if this has less to do with health and more to do with control.

Read on to see why she finally snapped at him.

AITA for crashing out on my fiancé’s advice about health?

I (25F) am in grad school. My fiancé (33M) and I are set to be married later this year.

Since the beginning of our relationship, he has been very health encouraging, such as working out more, not taking antidepressants,  and not eating out all the time (which I have overcome since starting dental school).

It was rough for me. We met my first year of dental school where I was in survival mode. Since then I’ve lost 20 pounds. I’ve never really eaten fast food or ultra processed frozen foods and work out consistently. So I’d say I’m doing good, I also don’t smoke or drink.

He convinced her to make many changes.

Since the microplastics documentary and the Paul Saladino wave, my fiancé seems to have gotten a bit of health anxiety.

I gave up red meat for Lent and was eating a lot of fish for the last month, and every week was a conversation about the microplastics and mercury building up in my body.

He also had my roommate and I replace plastic cutting boards and non stick pans, stop using aluminum foil, replace silicone cooking utensils with wooden ones, replace our dish sponges, etc.

Frustrated, she snapped on him.

I’ve tried to be supportive, but it tends to be irritating.

So, I snapped at him a bit, because I’m still in survival mode, and I feel like it’s been causing unnecessary stress since I had been eating really clean, even before I met him.

Well, today I was eating my roommate’s frozen chicken nuggets, because I was super hungry before my workout. This was my first time in about 5 months that I’ve eaten a processed frozen food, and he asked me to send him the ingredient list of it.

According to him, he wants her healthy for pregnancy.

Then, he proceeded to send me a 2-hour long podcast about Bryan Johnson and told me we will no longer be using olive oil to cook things because it’s really bad when heated and we should use butter instead.

I told him when I go to his place I’m willing to abide by his cooking practices, but when I’m in my apartment, at school, I will continue to use olive oil at low temperatures and he got upset with me saying that he’s just trying to help.

We plan to have kids in the next 2-3 years and he keeps telling me he’s concerned that the microplastics and mercury will build up when it’s time for me to have kids and he just wants me to be at my healthiest for when I get pregnant.

AITA?

Wow! The good news is that he cares, but he sounds exhausting.

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Let’s see how the readers over at Reddit feel about this whole thing.

This person thinks he is a control freak.

Ironically, his attitude doesn’t seem healthy at all.

Here’s someone who looks a little further into the future.

Great question.

Trying to encourage healthy habits is one thing, but constantly monitoring what someone eats and sending them hours of podcasts every time they touch processed food is exhausting.

This woman already seems healthier than most people, yet her fiancé still keeps finding new things for her to worry about anyway.

And once someone starts trying to control what you eat and your daily habits, it usually doesn’t stop there.

Honestly, she may want to seriously think about what this could look like years from now if it’s already this intense.