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Having an active social life should feel pretty normal at 20, especially when work, school, and responsibilities are still getting handled.

One young woman goes out several times a week, but when her mom and uncle object, would you stay home more or keep enjoying your free time?

That disagreement leaves her cutting back on friends despite paying bills, buying groceries, following curfew, and keeping her family informed.

Let’s see how it went down.

AITA for going out everyday?

I (20F) live with my parents, my uncle, and a sister. I have a full-time job where I get out really early and normally have the whole day free.

She works hard, so she wants to play hard too.

Over the past year and a half, I have been going out a lot. I have kept in touch with high school friends. Since we now have adult money, we like to hang out every once in a while.

I have also gained friends from work, and we like to meet up and hang out together. I have a boyfriend, and I like to hang out with my sister a lot as well.

She’s proud to have an active social life that brings her fulfillment.

The activities are endless—from going hiking, watching movies, going shopping, playing sports, trying new food shops, playing video games together, attending the occasional event, and more. I go out with someone different about 3–4 times a week (sometimes 5).

On top of that, I have my own things to do like go to the gym, attend health appointments, or work an extra shift from work.

But not everyone is so pleased that she’s thriving.

My mother and uncle (they are siblings) think it is not okay for me to go out so much. They believe that is not right and that as long as I live with them, I need to respect their rules.

My dad doesn’t care too much because I’m always honest with them about what I’m doing, and he thinks I’m responsible.

In her eyes, she does more than pull her weight around the house.

Mind you, I pay household bills every month and buy two weeks’ worth of groceries a month. I study and go to school. I save money from each paycheck. I keep my room relatively clean. I work a full-time job.

She thinks they have absolutely nothing to worry about when it comes to her activities outside of the house.

I share my location at all times. I tell them what I’m doing and who I am with. I come back on time for curfew.

I am also doing safe activities. I don’t do anything illegal and avoid situations that could get me in any legal trouble. I respect my mom and uncle and want to continue doing so.

Regardless, things have been incredibly tense between them.

This is the first major disagreement we have had ever. It’s come to the point where I lie to my friends and tell them I can’t hang out with them anymore because I’m busy doing something else. (I am not—I’m just at home doom-scrolling with all my chores done.)

AITA?

She’s honest, thoughtful and careful — but for her family, it’s still not enough.

What did Reddit make of all this?

Maybe it’s time to break free from her family’s oppressive reign.

She’s paying the bills, so she more than deserves a little freedom of her own.

Now’s the time to seize the day and enjoy her youth, not be bogged down by her family’s expectations.

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Maybe her family is simply stuck in the past.

She works full-time, studies, contributes financially, saves money, follows curfew, and still keeps her family updated about where she goes.

Her mom and uncle nevertheless want her home more often, leaving her declining plans just to sit around with nothing else to do.

Commenters overwhelmingly called her responsible and suggested the real tension involved control, independence, or difficulty accepting that she is now an adult.

Apparently hiking, movies, and dinner with friends become suspicious activities once your social calendar starts outperforming everyone else’s.