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Big life moments can come with difficult emotional decisions.

In this story, a woman learned that her daughter’s boyfriend was planning to have a proposal.

He indirectly told her not to attend the proposal, as it was an intimate moment.

As a single mother for over two decades, she felt her presence was deeply meaningful for such a milestone.

Now, she is torn between respecting the surprise proposal and wanting to be there for her daughter.

Sounds like a tough situation to be in, right? Check out the full details below.

AITA for Wanting to Show Up to My Daughter’s Secret Proposal While Uninvited By Her Fiancé?

My daughter and her boyfriend have been in a relationship for two and a half years.

Her boyfriend asked me for his blessing last week to marry my daughter.

He recently called me on the phone.

He indirectly asked me if I could please not show up to their proposal.

This woman felt like she should be part of this milestone for her daughter.

I am conflicted on deciding whether or not to show up to their proposal.

I am a single mother to her. Her father died when she was two years old.

I have been a widowed parent to her for 21 years and a parent in general to her for 23 years.

I feel that being a single parent holds more of an impact when it comes to my presence at her proposal.

If I don’t show up, no parent of hers will.

Yet she doesn’t want to disrespect the wishes of her daughter’s fiancé.

I can’t discuss this decision with my daughter yet as it would spoil the surprise of her engagement.

I know that she would want me to be there for her proposal.

I know it’s her fiancé’s proposal as well, I don’t want to disrespect his wishes.

I don’t know if it would be wrong of me to show up for my daughter’s proposal.

Now, she’s wondering if she would be the jerk if she shows up.

I am technically uninvited. I feel that I should show up for my daughter.

I am an important person to her. This is a once in a lifetime kind of event.

I don’t know if it’s a selfish decision of me to show up uninvited.

WIBTA if I show up?

Uh oh! It sounds like a delicate situation where what OP would do might make or break the event.

It makes sense that she wants to be there, especially given her role as the only parent of her daughter.

But the proposal is also a planned surprise, and the fiancé made it clear that it was only for the two of them.

I think finding a way to be included afterward might be the best compromise without disrupting the moment.

What do you think? Let’s see how others reacted to this story.

Short and straightforward.

Here’s another honest opinion.

Here’s a similar thought.

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Celebrate with them afterwards, suggests this one.

Finally, people are saying the same thing.

Sometimes, the hardest RSVP is the one not given to you.