Her Friend and Her Boyfriend Became Her Roommates—Then His Behavior Destroyed Their Friendship
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Choosing your roommates is a hard choice, but if you get it wrong, it can cost you everything.
What would you do if your friend and her boyfriend became your roommates, but almost immediately you realized that it was a mistake because he was a mean alcoholic?
That is what happened to the couple in this story, and after enduring them for months, they finally moved out after breaking the garage door and refusing to pay for it. Sadly, this ruined the friendship, but they don’t know what else they could have done.
Personally, I think they handled the situation as well as they could. If anything, they were a little too patient with this awful couple. Read through the full story below and see if you agree.
Friends as roommates turned sour unfortunately
6 months ago we needed some new roommates as our old ones were moving out.
You really have to be careful when choosing a new roommate.
I posted on my social media and an old friend who happens to be in the same college town told me her and her partner were keen to move in.
It sounded like it would be a good match, however, we had some reservations about her boyfriend. We’ve known both of them for 5 years and when he was in his late teens/early twenties he was very rowdy.
They have to take a chance.
We’re a bit older than them, my partner and I are straddling opposite sides of 30 years old. I did ask her if he knew it was not a party house and she confirmed he would not party and would go elsewhere if he were to.
Since its difficult to find people our age in this college town, we decided we’d go with our old friends as at least they were both almost 25.
Things aren’t going well right from the start.
Well, it turns out her boyfriend is alcoholic, has no regard for others, and is very loud. He never threw any parties, but he would constantly come home drunk and tinker in the garage.
Our bedroom is right above it and we can hear him breathe down there. He’d be in there with music until late at night or come home at 1 am and tinker. Often he’d fall asleep down there.
Not just a drunk, but a mean drunk.
The first weekend my parents came to stay he got drunk by himself in the garage and came upstairs to be very rude with my stepfather.
He told my parents to put down our family dog because he thought our dog was stupid. After My partner and I asked him firmly not to make those jokes, but he kept doing it and would say it again weeks later if I was talking about our dog with my partner.
Why does he act like this?
He slams every single door, cupboard and item in the house, so much that you can’t relax two rooms over without hearing it. He would make horrible scraping sounds with a fork on my bowls that my family gifted me.
We asked him many times to stop slamming things and be considerate of us. We were very polite, my partner was more stern sometimes.
It is long past time to start the process of evicting him.
The last time I asked I was very sick with the flu and he told me he “didn’t give a ****” what we thought and that since he had also signed the lease we should put up with it since it didn’t bother him.
My partner got into a heated discussion with him after hearing the way he spoke to me and told him he could leave if he wanted to behave this way.
Well, at least he is leaving.
He later on agreed to try and apologised, which we accepted. Then the next day he kept doing all of it and was even louder. He ended up breaking the garage door quite badly from his negligence, not once did he apologise and instead made jokes about it. He did not communicate about fixing it and left it for 7 days.
So, we reported him to our landlords and he received a written warning and notice to fix it. After that, we had a few conversations and he decided they would rather move back into their mold infested shared housing situation than be more considerate of us.
It is sad when becoming a roommate ruins a friendship.
His girlfriend will no longer speak to me, which makes me really sad because I really liked her company. I feel bad about reporting him behind his back but I do feel we had told him enough times and he had no respect for us.
I worry about his girlfriend/my (ex)friend because my father was an alcoholic and I grew up with a lot of domestic violence and it really hurt my mother and I.
There is a huge difference between being friends with someone and being their roommate. All too often, trying to shift from one to the other ends in disaster.
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Read through the comments below and see what you think about what happened.
The one good thing is that he left voluntarily.
This person also ruined a friendship by becoming a roommate.
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Friends are often the worst roommates.
Be very careful before you let a friend become a roommate; it often ends the friendship in many cases. In this case, they really should have gotten to know the boyfriend better before inviting him in.
It isn’t usually easy to hide the fact that you are a mean alcoholic, so they could have avoided this whole situation.
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