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Living together can make sharing feel complicated.

In this story, a man moved in with his girlfriend and her brother, who bought his own food and basic kitchen supplies.

However, while he had no problem sharing his food, he noticed that the brother kept taking their groceries without buying the same items himself.

The situation became frustrating as it started to feel like an unfair arrangement despite the brother having a full-time job.

Do you think his reaction was justified? Check out the full details below.

AITAH for not sharing food with my gf’s brother?

I moved in with my girlfriend and her brother a little while ago.

Before me, the two of them shared food. So I get that is the household norm. I am not trying to blow that up.

But something has been bugging me.

I want an honest read.

This man noticed that his girlfriend’s brother wouldn’t spend on nicer foods.

The brother buys his own basics. Rice, chicken, milk, and eggs. But anything nicer, like hummus or Greek yogurt, he refuses to buy.

He does not think it is worth the money. He says he does not really use much of it.

Instead, every time he wants some, he comes to us for a scoop. He is straight up about it, too. He admits he does not buy it because he eats less.

He also will not shop in bulk like we do. That is the part that gets me.

This would be frustrating.

My girlfriend and I buy in bulk on purpose. We do it to save trips to the store and to make meal prep easier. Not to stock a free pantry for someone else.

But because we always have extra, he never has to plan ahead. He just leans on us.

He waves it off as not a big deal.

It adds up over time. It starts to feel like I am subsidizing the exact stuff he decided was not worth his own money.

He wanted to be nice to him, but he feels like it’s too much.

For context, he has a full-time job, so this is not him being broke.

When I bring it up, the response is basically this.

My girlfriend used to take lots of his food before I came along, so sharing has always been their thing.

I am supposed to be in the position to do good things for him. So he likes me as I am trying to get into the family.

Now, he’s wondering if he’s being the bad guy for not sharing.

I do not think wanting to keep the food I paid for is unreasonable.

But I also do not want to be the guy who moved in and ruined how these two siblings live.

So, AITA?

Honestly, this feels less like sharing and more like selective freeloading.

It’s one thing to occasionally ask for some food, but consistently getting a part of their pantry supplies feels unfair.

I think OP needs to set firmer boundaries and communicate more with his girlfriend and her brother.

What do you think? Let’s see how others react to this story on Reddit.

This person offers two options.

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This person gives another solution.

Finally, here’s an honest take.

Sharing is caring, but asking for free stuff regularly is a different story.