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As you get older, you’ll realize that there are some neighbors you want to be friends with…

And others you want to avoid at all costs.

It can be a game of trial and error, but one you sniff out a bad one, you should do your best to stay as far away from them as possible.

Because if you don’t, things can get pretty ugly…

Check out what this woman had to say about a neighbor who is making her family’s life a living hell.

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Neighbour is calling me several times a day, expecting me to replace the deceased previous owner.

“A, B & C were all women in their late 80s and best friends.

A passed away & her adult son, who never left home, inherited the house.

B passed away and this is the house we’ve purchased/ live in.

C is our adjoining neighbour.

I woudn’t be okay with this…

C is lovely, but does come to the back of the house, letting herself into the garden by the back gate, as she’s use to knocking via the back door, which is fine although can be a bit of a jump scare if I’m not paying attention to the windows.

She will make comments about B “wouldn’t like that you have a cat in her house” or “she wouldn’t like the color you’re doing the living room”.

Again, not something I mind on its own, but is adding to the other issues.

D is the grown son of A who is physically disabled and a wheelchair user. His driveway adjoins ours with the diving fence removed long before we purchased. He has a broken down car blocking his drive and uses ours to navigate to his back door (only accessible door).

When we first moved in his visitors would be sent to ours asking us to move our car on set dates and times to allow his wheelchair to get past when the community ambulance comes to collect him, which we happily obliged, though were certain how we were parking left more than enough gap for this. In the interest of being good neighbours though, we didn’t question it.

His visitors and carers also regularly park on our drive or block it completely, which again, we’ve not questioned as it hasn’t stopped us leaving or getting back on our drive yet so far.

About a week after we moved in, I was working from home and his carer knocked on and asked me to pop around as he wanted to meet properly and discuss the parking situation. As it was pretty much my lunch break, I obliged and went to visit.

After entering D told me about A, B & C all being friends and him replacing his mum’s position in the “group that look out for each other” once she passed away, whilst heavily implying I will now be replacing B since we’ve moved into “her” house.

Oh, boy…

D also mentioned “how things work” on the street and essentially implied we need to do things the same as B did in order to fit in and keep everyone happy.

He also went into quite gory details about his various health conditions and used a bed pan in full view whilst I was there. He also mentioned he has a CCTV system monitoring the internal and externals of his house and drive, with a view to expanding it to our driveway.

I explained it wasn’t necessary, as we were planning on our own Ring system, but I think it fell on deaf ears.

I also asked about the plans for his car, as I’d soon be returning to the office and wouldn’t be available to keep moving our car several times a day, several days a week (I commute by train) and he said it’s how it’s always been done with B before that, so he’s not sure what other workaround there is.

I again prompted him about the car on his drive and he went on a tangent about his mechanic brother not helping him and didn’t really give an indication of moving it.

I did say we leave at least a 4 meter gap between cars, so he can get on our drive to past his car and back to his drive before reaching our car, though he insisted it isn’t big enough.

We ended up swapping numbers, so he could inform me in advance of the car needing moving as it was the only solution he was comfortable with.

That was a bad idea!

Since giving my number to D he has not stopped calling. I understand interaction is the price of community, but I’m getting several calls throughout the day (upwards of 5 and multiple times in a row if I don’t answer) and numerous voicemails.

They’re not about anything serious, mostly telling me about the different mediations his doctor is trialling or his niece going on holiday. It’s become pretty stressful and hard to manage, particularly when I’m working full time.

I let him know we were going on holiday for a week and we’ve left enough of a gap that his wheelchair can get through (we’ve had our friend who uses a large motorized wheelchair test it and it’s absolutely more than enough room).

This guy is way too overbearing…

Even on holiday, he called me several times a day, none of which I answered and left several voicemails, most of which were just asking about the holiday and that we’d missed the bin collection.

Tuesday, we got back from holiday, he called 10 minutes after we’d been dropped off asking my husband and I to come around for a drink. I said it’s late and we’re very tired, we’ll speak to him soon.

My husband is a very shy man and previously left most of the neighbouring to me, which I don’t mind as I’m the people person in our relationship. He’s since realised the mental toll this constant contact is having and promised he’d take over any future calls.

Wednesday, my husband called D to let him know a letter had accidentally been posted through ours and asked if he’d available to drop it off. D said he’s busy at the minute and would call back once he’s free, which he didn’t that day.

Today my husband returned to work (I have the rest of the week off) and I went to make myself some breakfast and the second I appeared in the kitchen window, my phone started going off with calls from D (unanswered as I was busy unpacking and doing laundry).

And things are getting creepy around here!

I looked up and he wasn’t in his window, so I’m convinced his CCTV looks through his window to ours (they face each other) and he’s waited til I was alone to call. I checked with my husband and D hasn’t tried to contact him, which convinced me further. My husband is going to speak to him after work tonight.

I’m torn up as I have sympathy for this man who is clearly quite lonely, but the constant calls, which are sometimes everyday or at the least every other day, are getting really stressful and I’m starting to think they aren’t as innocent as first thought, since he doesn’t try and call my husband at all, or doesn’t ramble on when my husband is the one speaking to him.

I feel like the car situation is getting ridiculous and he’s just using it as an excuse to call, when he should be focusing on clearing his own driveway.

I’ve tried broaching it with A, but she also seems to believe we should be filling B’s position and continuing their routine or status quo.

How do I deal with this?

I’m keen to avoid upsetting elderly and disabled neighbours and don’t want to start any wars but it’s tiring getting so many pointless calls and being told “B did/didn’t do this therefore you should act the same”.

We’re mindful and quiet neighbours, but this doesn’t seem to be enough and I’m at my wits end.”

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This is insane!

And it sounds like they’re having a tough time staying away from this guy…

Scary stuff!

This neighbor needs to back off and mind his own business.