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Hosting guests can feel very different once the calendar stops leaving any room to breathe.

A professor regularly welcomes colleagues and students into the home, while his wife usually goes along with it because he handles most of the work.

This time, though, another stay lands between ten days of houseguests and more travel, with no clear agreement that she had signed off.

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AITA: I told my husband I did not want to host his student at the house.

My husband is a professor and he often hosts colleagues at our house.

I usually know and like them, so I don’t mind this.

My husband also will do 90% of the work to make this happen (room prep, food, etc.).

He also co-supervises students from out of town or out of the country.

This woman is okay with hosting and welcoming her husband’s colleagues at their home.

He’s a very kind and generous guy and super-extroverted.

He likes to host them at the house. He says hotels are so sterile and impersonal.

Just some context to set the stage.

I am generally okay with this, but I asked if we can skip hosting students because it’s more stressful and awkward since I don’t know them.

They both agreed that he needs to ask her first before he commits to another student.

Either way, we agreed that he needs to run it by me before he commits. Then, add it to our shared calendar (we have a lot going on), so we can coordinate.

Well, he either forgot to ask me about this upcoming student, or I forgot he asked (honestly, either is possible).

Either way, it was also not on the calendar.

Accepting this student now would mean 2.5 weeks of them not having their house to themselves.

In addition, we have currently been hosting out-of-town friends for the last 10 days.

This is sandwiched between travel. Me, before they arrived. Then, both of us after the “student” leaves.

So, it will be 2.5 weeks that we will not have the house to ourselves when all is said and done.

She feels exhausted from hosting other people.

AITA for asking for this student to stay at a hotel?

He says he’d already said it was okay and feels bad reneging.

But I’m exhausted and tired of hosting.

What’s the right thing to do in this situation?

Let’s see how others reacted to this story on Reddit.

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This person gives their honest opinion.

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Finally, short and simple.

She was not objecting to her husband being generous, but to losing nearly three straight weeks of privacy without a clear conversation first.

He felt uncomfortable backing out after already offering the room, while she felt exhausted and wanted the hosting agreement they had made to actually matter.

Even the nicest guest can feel like too much when the house never gets to exhale.