Magnific

Sometimes a difficult neighbor is just difficult. Maybe they complain about your lawn, argue over parking, or call the HOA over something petty.

But every once in a while, you end up with a neighbor whose behavior becomes so bizarre that you genuinely start wondering what is going on inside their head.

In this case, a woman found herself not only dealing with false HOA complaints escalating into a lawsuit, but also the same neighbor seems to be copying the homeowner’s appearance, car, and clothing while also yelling insults at the family.

What would you do in her situation? Would you move to another neighborhood?

Read the full story below.

Nutty Neighbor seems weirdly obsessed

We have a neighbor who has acted like this since we first moved into our new-build home in 2003.

She’s never been in my home, and I’ve never really had a conversation with her except “hi, bye” and whenever she’s taken it upon herself to stomp over to complain about something that had upset her daughter.

And I have never been in her home, but know the layout, as we lived in the same floor plan in our last neighborhood and have friends say, “It’s just like your old house.” Weird.

Lawyers got involved.

She continually turns us into the HOA for false violations, and at one point got on the board with my husband and kept pressing a non-rule (I had been on the board when that was repealed by a vote of the committee).

We laughed, she wouldn’t stop. It ended in a lawsuit.

We sued the HOA president and her, yes, the HOA had insurance to cover board members, but the lawyers, insurance, and management company all agreed they were breaking the bylaws and state law with selective enforcement.

We won.

But it didn’t feel that rewarding since things got so weird.

We did not ask for money, we asked for lawyers’ fees, and those two board members were removed by a judge and not allowed to ever be on a committee or board again.

And yes, they had to pay with their own funds because they were told they were not doing this in good faith and this was not their fiduciary duty.

So insurance for board members did not have to pay.

After that, she was a curly, short-haired blonde. I have long auburn hair, fairly straight with some waves.

Identity theft is not a joke…

I also have a lot of pink clothes that I work in the yard in. I also have an incurable physical disability.

And I drive a white Subaru SUV.

This matters because she has grown her hair out, dyed it dark, dark, and straightens it. Also, she now only wears pink clothes and bought a newer car the same as mine.

Now she likes to yell at our house, obscenities, and that I am not really ill (she looks totally nuts when she does this because we are generally not outside when she is around). How would she know?

It’s a crazy situation.

I’ve never talked to her about anything personal. She has contacted Social Security Disability saying I am faking (wish I were).

Her Wi-Fi name is “Disability Fraud Watch.”

She now yells things at my husband, who had a heart attack 2 years ago, about being a loser and that’s why he had an attack. (Again, don’t know how she would know this, we do not speak.)

She’s also threatened to come over and kick his ***. Just nuts!

They’re confused about the whole thing.

So my family and I wonder:

Does she have a thing for my husband and is trying to be like me?

Does her husband have a thing for me, so she resents me?

Both of those things sound uppity and snotty on my part, but we have no idea what the deal with her is, and it seems she just keeps copying me.

It’s very obvious.

Also, had my hair highlighted for a wedding, 2 days later, my husband comes in and says, “Guess who got highlights?”

She does call the police frequently, and even her harassment is considered a neighbor problem and they won’t do anything, but agree there is something wrong with her.

The HOA now ignores her complaints.

We built this house to accommodate my disability, so moving would be awful.

AITA?

What did Reddit think?

A reader shares their thoughts.

Another opinion.

Something to consider.

This is another way to approach it.

Another reader chimes in.

If you enjoyed this story, check out this post about a man who stops helping his neighbors out with his snowplow after they complain about his farm.

A mischievous idea.

At some point, this stops sounding like an ordinary feud between neighbors and starts sounding like someone has made it their personal mission to monitor another family.

Even the Wi-Fi name, “Disability Fraud Watch,” sounds like something from a parody.

Her personal issues with her are pretty obvious.