October 4, 2026 at 10:23 am

Her Mother Refused To See Her Side Of Things And Played The Victim In Every Argument

by Sarrah Murtaza

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Telling parents that they might be wrong is one of the most difficult things you can do.

This daughter shares how she tried telling her mother that she’s in the wrong but things escalated.

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AITAH for not wanting my mothers significant other around my kids?

This is more so are we the AHs since it involves my sister’s kids as well.

Our mom is with a man who she was with previously. The relationship ended because she found out her secretly turned her location on her phone and was basically stalking her.

This is where it gets creepier…

While they were not together they remained in semi contact on a cordial level. Also, while they were apart he got a fairly large abdomen tattoo dedicated to her.

This was a few years ago, and apparently since they have been separated he’s gone through therapy to work through his trust issues from a past marriage. He and my mother got back together (I believe) around Christmas 2025.

Bringing us to this weekend.

UH OH…

My mom was set to babysit my sister’s two kids. When mom showed up at her house, this guy was with her (drove separately) without my sister’s prior knowledge. My sister immediately called me because I was supposed to drop my daughter off to hang out as well.

My sister nor I are comfortable with this guy around our kids without us present.

It has nothing to do with trusting our mom, but everything to do with not trusting him. I personally find what he did years ago legitimately dangerous and borderline sociopathic.

I got to my sister’s house and while mom was outside with the kids we were trying to figure out how to handle this. We decided to pull mom in the kitchen and talk.

That’s INSANE!

Simply started with asking if he was staying, and when she confirmed we both said something along the lines of β€œwe’re not comfortable with that”, I even brought up the point of I thought what he did was dangerous and I do not want him around my kid(s) without me around.

Without skipping a beat mom’s words were β€œthen I’m leaving”. No talk. no discussion. She just walked away. I shouted out β€œwe’re really not going to talk about this”, and she came back.

It came to what you expect. She tried saying we don’t trust her, he is there to help her, and all that. We reiterated that it’s not HER we don’t trust, it’s HIM.

She was just not getting the point!

We asked what if he tried to overpower you? She laughed that off kind of. I admit that is a drastic example, but that’s where my sister’s and I heads are at.

Our kids are 1, 3, and 9.

What shocked us both is mom actually left. Extremely hurt by her doing that I threw out β€œI hope you know this decision is you picking this man over spending a few hours with your grandkids”, and she said β€œno it’s not” then got in her car and left.

I ended up staying with my niece and nephew for the couple hours so my sister and BIL could have their date night.

They’re wondering if they took it too far…

This all happened 24 hours ago.

We still haven’t heard from mom, and expect a whole ordeal to come of it. We don’t know what to do if we don’t hear from her before mother’s day.

YIKES! That sounds super weird!

Why would the mom not care about her children at all?

Let’s find out what folks on Reddit think about this one.

This user knows the mom is at fault for not being careful around this man.

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This user knows these mothers have full right to protect their children from whoever they wish.

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That’s right! This user knows what their reaction to a situation like this would have been.

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This user suggests cutting off the mother…

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This user knows kids safety comes first…

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Somebody needs to choose for themself.

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Sarrah Murtaza | Contributing Writer, Life & Drama

Sarrah Murtaza is a contributing writer for TwistedSifter specializing in human interest stories, internet culture, and interpersonal drama. With nearly six years of experience in digital publishing, she excels at identifying compelling, community-driven conversations and elevating them into highly engaging narratives.

Sarrah brings a unique, narrative-focused approach to her journalism. Drawing on her professional background as a screenwriter and director, she has a sharp editorial eye for human conflict and motivation. This allows her to transform everyday online dilemmas and relationship dynamics into well-structured, empathetic stories that resonate deeply with readers.

As a dedicated remote professional, Sarrah uses her location independence to travel the world, bringing a diverse and exploratory perspective to her writing. When she isn't crafting stories, she can usually be found exploring a new city or working on her latest creative project.

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