Planning an important trip with your family can be a lot of fun, but when the plans suddenly change, it can be difficult for many people.

What would you do if you had planned on visiting a culturally significant priest in your homeland, but at the last minute, your cousins (who don’t care about the culture) showed up as well and interfered upon the experience?

That is what happened to the young lady in this story, so she got upset about what happened and threw a fit. Some people say she was out of line, but others acknowledge the frustration.

While I can understand why she didn’t like what happened, I don’t think she handled it well. Read through the full story below and see what you think.

AITA for refusing astrological reading of my cousins?

Ok, the title sounds ridiculous but please read me out.

Every family is different.

Context: me and my family are Indian, and we don’t really go to India often. Me (17F) and my father (52M) went because we wanted to go to temples before we apply to college for me.

However, my dad’s older brother (60M) and his wife (?F) don’t visit India often, and she’s white, and therefore her kids (my cousins) are very disconnected from their culture. Let’s call my cousins R (24 M) and N (26 M).

They were obviously going to be excited about this.

We do not speak to them AT ALL. I also just want to say my uncle makes significantly more money than our family, and can travel to India anytime they want.

Alright, now for the story: There is a temple in Kerala, where a priest will read your fortune based on your face. We went to great lengths to secure this appointment with this priest- it was a month long queue and we finally got it.

It is unlikely that the priest would recognize anyone from a month ago if he is so busy.

We (my grandma 85F, my dad 52M, and I 17F) woke up at 5AM and traveled by car around 4 hours (one way) and waited for another hour just to get our fortunes told by the priest.

I presumed it would only be for me and my family (my sister and mother had visited last month, so the priest knew their faces), but my dad asked my grandma if she wanted to add anyone on and she mentioned a reading for my cousins, who I barely talk to, in addition to my family being read.

Getting upset about this is kind of petty.

I started arguing with my dad on the spot, saying we came all the way here for our fortunes to be read and waited for a month, just for these cousins we don’t talk to to be added on alongside our family.

My dad said I was being rude and nasty, and that that was her wish. My grandma was just like “don’t add them,” and I said its fine, and my dad later said I shouldn’t have said something like that in front of God.

Honestly, this young lady is being silly.

I was upset for these reasons:

I wanted to ask more questions about my future and other prospects.

The astrologer doesn’t even know their faces (necessary for reading), so it wasn’t even accurate anyway.

Ok, if they are taking up some of her time, I can see why that would be a problem.

We waited so long for an appointment just for it to get cut short because of our cousins that didn’t even request one for themselves, my grandma did.

Our uncle makes significantly more money than us, and can come to India anytime he wants.

Many people have a hard time with last-minute changes in a plan.

Our uncle has been notoriously rude to me and my family, especially my mother. When it was announced my sister got into Berkeley, he acted dumbfounded as if she is stupid.

They didn’t even request it, my grandma did. They have never been to India, are not Hindu, don’t speak our language, (which is fine), but it was not fair that something that I have been anticipating for months got soiled by them. My sister said I was wrong, but my mom agrees with me.

AITA?

While I can understand why she would be annoyed by this, it is also kind of petty to throw a fit. It seems like Grandma was paying for it all, so if she wanted the cousins there, it should be her choice.

Read on to see what the people in the comments have to say about it.

This does seem odd, though.

The grandmother cares about the cousins, too.

Here is someone who says she is acting ridiculous.

She seems to be gatekeeping the culture.

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This person says she is acting like a brat.

She is acting like a spoiled little girl. Even if it was annoying, she should have focused on the positive aspects of the experience and not let it be ruined.

Sadly, this is a common issue with immature people.