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Lending someone a favorite shirt is a small act of trust, and it only takes one stretched-out neckline to have that trust damaged for good.

In this story, one woman was kind enough to allow her roommate to borrow her clothes on occasion.

But when that roommate proceeded to return the clothing stretched, loose, and worn, she started questioning whether she could trust her with anything.

So when she finally said no to a blue tank top, the roommate’s attitude only made the guilt heavier.

Finally, the renter was forced to confront the fact that boundaries were long overdue in the relationship.

Keep reading for the full story.

My roommate treats my wardrobe like it’s her own and I’m losing my patience

I genuinely need to vent because I am losing my mind.

My roommate is not a bad person. She’s actually nice and friendly, which somehow makes this even harder to deal with. But living with her is driving me insane.

She describes her number one complaint with this girl.

Every single time she goes out, she wants to wear my clothes because apparently she “doesn’t have anything nice to wear.”

At first, I didn’t mind lending a few things because I wanted to be helpful. Big mistake.

The clothes often came back much worse for wear.

She’s bigger than me in size, so a lot of my clothes end up stretched out or fitting differently afterward. I have this denim skirt that I absolutely loved, and I swear she’s worn it more times than I have. Now it’s noticeably looser.

She even wore a dress that was gifted to me by someone really special. That one honestly hurt.

But that isn’t the only thing she dislikes about this roommate.

And the thing is, she spends SO much time talking to boys. Like, she has multiple talking stages going on at the same time, and it feels like 90% of our conversations revolve around some guy.

I can’t take another breakdown of who texted whom and what emoji they used.

Finally, she decided to start sticking up for herself.

Yesterday, I finally worked up the courage to say no when she asked to borrow my blue tank top. I told her honestly that my clothes have been getting loose and I didn’t want that to happen again.

I felt guilty saying it, but also… why should I feel guilty for wanting to wear my own clothes?

Then there’s her hygiene habits.

On top of that, she is unbelievably messy. Her side of the room constantly looks like a tornado hit it. Clothes, bags, random stuff everywhere.

The thing that annoys me the most is that whenever I come back to the room, there is a decent chance I’ll find her belongings all over my bed. She leaves after I do, she’s always running late, and somehow my bed becomes her temporary storage space.

So I come back exhausted and have to move her stuff before I can even sit down.

She doesn’t hate this person, but she’s mad enough that she’s turning to Reddit for advice.

I know these sound like small things individually, but after months of it happening over and over again, I’m so irritated.

I feel like my clothes, my space, and honestly my patience are being taken for granted.

AITA, or would this drive anyone else crazy too?

All of these factors together create a perfect storm.

Redditors chime in with their thoughts.

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Strong boundaries are harder to set when you’ve already allowed someone to walk all over you.

There’s two important things this renter should do right now.

This reader provides a potential script.

There’s a limit in how much roommates have the capacity to change if that’s part of who they are.

This roommate sounds like the kind of person who’s easy to like and hard to live with, and that combination is exactly why the woman kept quiet for so long.

But ultimately, a friendly face doesn’t cancel out a stretched-out skirt, and charm doesn’t make a gifted dress any less sentimental.

Borrowing clothes once in a while is a favor, but borrowing them before every night out is an overstep this renter never actually agreed to.

Her closet, her rules.

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Benjamin Cottrell

Benjamin Cottrell | Assistant Editor, Internet Culture

Benjamin Cottrell is an Assistant Editor and contributing writer at TwistedSifter, specializing in internet culture, viral social dynamics, and the moral complexities of online communities. He brings a highly analytical, editorial voice to his reporting on workplace conflicts, malicious compliance, and interpersonal drama, with a specific focus on nuanced stories that lack an obvious villain.

As a published author of rhetorical criticism, Benjamin leverages his academic background in human communication to dissect and elevate viral social media threads. Instead of simply summarizing events, he provides readers with balanced, deep-dive commentary into why the internet reacts the way it does. In addition to his cultural reporting, he is an experienced fine art photography essayist and video game reviewer.

When he isn’t analyzing the latest viral debates, Benjamin is usually chipping away at his extensive video game backlog, hunting down the best new restaurants, or out exploring the city with a camera in hand.

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