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When you live in an apartment complex, you run into your neighbors on a regular basis, which can be a blessing or a curse.

What would you do if one of your neighbors started being really rude to you for no reason that you can think of, and even blocked off your parking spot?

That is what happened to the young lady in this story, and she is desperately trying to find a way to get the harassment to stop. Unfortunately, the neighbor is careful not to do things in front of others, so it is hard to prove.

I think she needs to start trying to record interactions and continue to file complaints. Read through the full story below and see what you think.

How to deal with a rude neighbour

For context, I’m 21 and she’s in her 40s and been my neighbour for some time. In the last year, she has decided to hate me.

It is awful when someone despises you for no reason.

We live in a unit complex, so there are some shared spaces. I tend to keep to myself and try not to bother anyone, whereas she will get into other people’s business very unnecessarily.

So, this is one of the latest incidents of how she is rude to me. She started parking ridiculously close to my car to the point I couldn’t come out a couple of months ago, so I parked in someone else’s spot (u7), which I have written permission to use from them.

How is she being allowed to do this?

This is where she decided to chain that spot up, and now I can only temporarily use another’s neighbours spot (u13) until this is sorted.

So, I went to Raine and Horne about all this, where they assured me that I will be able to park in u7 but its been a week or so, and shes still refusing to unchain the spot.

She has also decided it is now her new storage space where is using it like a shed.

Nobody is willing to take action.

Just a side note, she claimed I was a bully for calling her a bully, even though I’ve asked her at the start of year to leave me alone a couple of times and ignored her ever since then. She is the one that is always initiating contact.

I’ve tried going to my real estate agent, and she was not helpful. I tried contacting Raine and Horne, and man are they hard to get a hold of. This is just the latest of several many incidents with this neighbour.

People like this are snakes.

Raine and Horne has acknowledged that she has troublesome behaviours, but since she’s the chair of body corp, everyone seems scared to do anything about her.

In general, she has been quite hostile toward me, but only does things usually when people can’t see or hear. She tends to nice to you for a little, but seemingly randomly turns on you.

A couple of others neighbours said it happened to them. But since she keeps on a front for most neighbours, they can’t believe that she can be a bully.

This is harassment, honestly.

She also decided it’ll be a great idea to smoke right by my bathroom windows, which are sometimes open. Again we’re in units, so my place isn’t big.

The smoke from her cigs travel easily into my space. I also have cats and this concerns me since all this second hand smoke won’t be good for my cats or me.

She feels helpless, and it is easy to see why.

There is more I could say about her, but you get the idea. I do acknowledge that my feeling are hurt and that can cloud my judgement, and honestly there’s not much I can do anyway.

I have already told her to leave me alone, stopped contact with her, written emails to my agent and Raine and Horne about her, contacted youth law, the non emergency line thing about another incident, spoke to neighbours etc.

This is a very difficult situation.

Again, I have tried many many many ways to get this lady to back off but she won’t. It’s like the more I try to get her to stay away from me the more aggressive she becomes.

Legally speaking, I can’t do anything unless I wanna go the VCAT or IVO way, but she hasn’t done anything enough for the IVO to go though and the VCAT process sounds brutal.

It is easy to see why she is so frustrated.

All I really want is for her to leave me alone, but nothing I’ve done has worked. It’s been a year of this and I am so over it.

Any advice would be appreciated. Sorry for such a long post.

In situations like this, documentation and persistence are key. Try to record every interaction, take pictures, and get witnesses. Most importantly, keep filing complaints.

Read on to see what people in the comments suggest.

This commenter has a great idea.

Doing the same things back to her might actually help.

If you enjoyed this story, check out this post about an artist who made sure to leave the walls of her home blank and boring before moving out, even though they were covered with gorgeous murals before then.

This person expeirenced something similar.

She cannot keep letting this go. Following the suggestions from the commenters above should really help.

If not, she needs to work with the police or other authorities.