Divorce and custody battles can be messy, and children are often the ones primarily affected.

This man claims to be looking out for his son’s interest, but when his wife told him that he should get the same babysitter he has always known, he refused.

Now, their son is upset and she’s accusing him of being petty.

Read the story below for all the details.

AITA for getting my son a new babysitter for my weeks

My ex-wife and I have a 7-year-old son.

Our son has had the same babysitter for the past year and a half, Abigail (22).

Abigail and her husband took in some family members’ kids around the same age.

And her husband works nights, so they’re both home in the afternoons when Abigail has our son.

This man’s wife asked him if he’d agree to get Abigail as his babysitter, too.

Our son enjoys going there and playing with the kids, and having the husband teach him how to swim and play baseball.

He’s even claimed partial ownership over their dogs.

While my wife and I were discussing custody, she told me she wants Abigail to watch our son on my weeks, so he’ll have some consistency.

He didn’t agree.

Normally, I’d be fine with that, but Abigail and my wife have gotten very close over the past year and a half.

They meet for lunch at least every other week to catch up without the kids.

They text nearly every day, and she’s openly taking my wife’s side in the divorce.

I’m afraid that if Abigail has my son on my weeks, that she’ll report everything back to my wife or that she’ll take my son to see my wife.

He told her his reasons.

I told her that I wasn’t comfortable with her friend watching my son on my weeks.

But if she wanted to have the same babysitter throughout, we could find someone else that we both agree on.

My wife refused because she “only trusts Abigail,” and thinks this is me retaliating because she was able to prevent my family from being alone with my son.

Even their son wanted Abigail to be his sitter.

I told her I still don’t want to have Abigail watch my son on my weeks.

And she’s getting my son involved, asking if he wants to go with Abigail or get a new sitter.

Now, my son is upset that he can’t see Abigail on my weeks, and my wife is accusing me of being petty and harming our son to spite her.

AITA?

Let’s find out how others reacted to this story.

This user shares their personal thoughts.

Here’s a very clear and valid point.

Another insightful comment from this user here.

This is very spot on!

We’re getting a lot of YTAs!

This man definitely is thinking about himself and not his son.

That won’t end well for any of them.

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