How much is too much?

That’s a question that can be asked about a lot of different things in life, and the woman who wrote this story on Reddit got into a spat with her boyfriend because he wasn’t happy about how much stuff she brought for an overnight stay at their friend’s house.

Who’s to blame for this situation?

Get all the details below and YOU be the judge.

AITA for packing the car full?

“My BF literally said to me during this argument that if I posted here I’d be told I’m definitely the *******, so I’m putting it to the test.

We were heading away last weekend to stay over at my best friend’s house for a night. Me, my BF and our two dogs. The plan was dinner, movie, sleep over, and a day of dog activities we had planned on the Sunday.

She had it under control…

He was agitated on Saturday while I was packing up the car and I told him to leave it to me if he was so stressed about it. In the car on the way to my friends house, he told me I overpack unnecessarily and that he thinks is really rude and not OK to arrive at someone else’s house and take over their whole house with the dogs.

He thinks I should have just let the dogs ‘figure it out’ and not brought beds with me etc. I disagreed and I think the issue is he is used to going away for the night with the clothes on his back and a MAYBE a toothbrush, if even, and that planning for 4 bodies (2 x humans, 2 x dogs) is something he is poor at.

She was doing what she thought was right…

I was trying to pack for maximum success to get dogs to settle down and not be causing any issues in a new exciting situation.

That’s when he suggested posting here to see.

Background: this house belongs to my best friend, who loves my dogs and has been inviting us all over for ages. She had prepped her house in advance to make sure it was dog friendly and had closed all doors to rooms dogs were not allowed in.

My dogs are adult (but young) mid size energetic breeds and I didn’t know how well they were going to settle. They’ve both stayed here individually, but not together, and i was trying make sure it was a success.

She did bring a lot of stuff…

I packed:

2 x dog beds

4 x towels (to use as blankets and in case we needed to dry them off)

2 x food bowls

1 x water bowl

Enough food for two meals

Long lasting dog chews

Treats

3 x dog toys

Necessary equipment for the activity day on Sunday (2 x 10m Long lines and 1 x dog crate)

2 x 2L bottles of water for Sunday

Snacks for Sunday

Overnight bag for both me and my partner

Chargers

Raincoats

The “stress” of it was that one dog rides in the boot of the car and the other dog takes up the whole back seat, so everything had to fit in the footwell/ behind the passenger and driver seats.

I made it work but it took some jiggling things about as wanted to make sure everything I needed for my friends house was to hand and stuff for Sunday was in a different spot. Like a game of car Tetris.

Did I overpack? Did I impose too much stuff at my friends house?

AITA?”

Reddit users shared their thoughts.

This person didn’t hold back.

Another individual said she’s NTA.

This Reddit user spoke up.

Another reader said she’s NTA.

And this person spoke up.

I think these two might have some other, more serious issues to work out…

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