Teamwork makes a marriage work, but what happens when one person on the team is doing almost all of the work?

This woman has been balancing part-time work, full-time parenting, and managing the household.

Her husband doesn’t do much to help out at all and refuses to do more than he’s already doing.

Now, she’s questioning whether it’s still reasonable to stay with him.

Read the full story below.

AITAH for leaving my husband after he refused to help with our child?

My (29F) husband (30M) and I have been together for 10 years.

We currently share 1 child (3F).

When our daughter was born, I was working full-time in an office setting, but then, I went on a leave after developing severe PPD.

This woman gave up her full-time job and took on a part-time stint.

We realized that we didn’t need my full income, so I stepped down to part-time so we didn’t have to use daycare and to hopefully relieve some stress to ease my depression.

I worked part-time from the time she was 6 months old until January 2025.

During this time, I was responsible for the household and our daughter.

She mostly did everything at home and for their baby.

My husband’s only real responsibility was cooking dinner and the occasional breakfast.

I cleaned, I grocery shopped, and meal planned.

I remembered all the appointments and events.

I also did all of the child-rearing, with the exception of the two days I worked in office.

I had one day work from home, but my daughter was at home with me.

She wanted to go back to work, but he refused.

I became more overwhelmed than I was before.

I asked for help constantly.

My husband would follow through for about two weeks before telling me that he was too tired from working full time (~40 hrs).

I told him I wanted to go back to work full time and split the workload.

He said no.

She looked for a job so she could put her baby in daycare.

I found a job anyway, one where I’d be able to put my daughter in a reputable daycare for my remote days and still be bringing in more monthly than my part-time job.

It’s important to note that we are also renovating our entire home due to hurricane damage, and we didn’t have insurance, so extra income is needed.

Her husband got mad and said he wouldn’t help her in any way.

I told my husband about the job after accepting the position.

He was furious.

He told me not to expect any help outside of what he does now (cooking).

He has remained steadfast in his decision to not help.

I recently asked again if he could at least help by brushing her teeth in the morning.

He said no.

So now, she’s contemplating leaving him.

I said we are supposed to be a team, and I would really appreciate his help.

He snapped that this is what I wanted. That I did this to myself and he would not be helping beyond his fair share.

I said fine, I’ll figure it out myself.

I’ve since been contemplating divorce. If the only responsibility I need to pick up is cooking, then what help do I need from him?

AITA for deciding that if he won’t help, I won’t stay?

Her husband sounds pretty lazy. Is idea of doing his fair share isn’t really fair.

Let’s see the reactions of other people on Reddit to this story.

You deserve real support, says this person.

This user shares their personal thoughts.

This person offers helpful advice.

Here’s an honest opinion from this person.

Finally, short and simple.

Partnerships should be built on support, not ultimatums.

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