Setting clear expectations is key when planning big life events.

If you were planning a child-free wedding, would you make an exception for your sister and her newborn baby, or would you tell her she can’t bring the baby?

This woman is getting married soon and has decided to have a child-free wedding ceremony.

Her sister got pregnant and insisted on bringing her baby to the event.

She’s not sure what to do about it.

Read the full story below for all the details.

WIBTA if I rescinded my offer to hire a babysitter for my child-free wedding

I’m getting married in a little less than a month.

My partner and I decided back in November to have a child-free wedding.

Shortly after making this decision, a bridesmaid and my sister announced they were pregnant.

This woman made it clear to her family that their wedding would be child-free.

We made it clear at Christmas with the family, and went over it again at Easter that we were still having a child-free wedding, but we would offer to pay for a babysitter who would be about 5 minutes away from the venue.

Cut to Father’s Day (June 15th), and my sister mentions something to us.

She thinks her baby should be fine at the wedding as long as she is holding him.

She offered her sister the babysitter they would hire 5 minutes away from the venue.

I stopped her and reminded her that we are having a child-free wedding.

She responded, “Then, I guess we aren’t going.”

I told her about the offer for a babysitter close by, but she didn’t respond.

So I said I respect whatever decision she makes and left it at that.

She learned that her sister was complaining to their mom about her no-child rule.

Currently, I have not heard anything else from my sister, but I know she called my mom to complain about it.

She claimed she was never told about the wedding was child-free.

Thinking back, it’s possible they didn’t know as they often don’t join family events because they are “sick.”

I also don’t think she ever took the effort to RSVP online, so she may not have seen the invitation was only for her and her husband.

She plans on not going through with the babysitter.

My bridesmaid has decided to organize her own arrangements for the baby, so she won’t need to use the babysitter.

I’m now considering rescinding my offer for a babysitter. It will cost us easily $300 to rent the space and pay the sitter.

She’s anticipating that her sister would cancel at the last minute or try to sneak in her baby.

I would not be surprised if they will cancel last minute despite saying they will come and need the babysitter.

I also wouldn’t be surprised if they didn’t respect the no-child rule and tried to sneak the baby into the reception.

She’s now thinking about just uninviting her sister to her wedding.

However, they do not have the money to pay for their own sitter, so by doing so, I will be essentially uninviting them from the wedding.

It probably goes without saying at this point, but yes, my relationship with my sister has been strained for many years.

WIBTA if I told my sister the offer for a babysitter was off the table?

Is it wrong to cancel the babysitter option? If she does, she’s basically uninviting her sister.

Let’s check out the comments of other people on Reddit to this story.

This person makes a valid point.

This comment makes sense, too.

You sound like a toxic sister, says this person.

Finally, short and simple.

You can’t please everyone, but you can stand by your choices.

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