October 1, 2025 at 8:48 pm

Woman Refused To Go Shopping With Her Sister Because She Already Had Plans With Her Friends, So Now She’s Being Called Selfish

by Heide Lazaro

Young woman arguing with someone over the phone

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Some siblings can be a little too entitled, thinking they should always get their way.

This woman was meeting up with her friends, whom she had been looking forward to seeing in a while.

Her younger sister suddenly demanded help with shopping on the same day she already had plans.

She apologized and said she had other plans, so now her sister accused her of being selfish and uncaring.

Read the full story below for all the details.

AITAH for telling my sister that I am busy and cannot help her with back-to-school shopping?

I am 27F, and my sister is 18F.

I have some plans today with friends that I’ve been looking forward to for a while.

Suddenly, I get a call from my sister asking me to take her back-to-school shopping today before she starts uni.

Apparently, my dad promised to take her and then, suddenly, changed his mind because he was too tired.

She wanted to do it during the same time I have my other plans.

This woman told her sister she couldn’t go with her as she had other plans.

For context, we live in the same city, but I moved out 6 months ago and, now, I’m in my own place.

I said, “Sorry, I can’t. I have some plans today but we can go another day.”

She was like, “Today is the only day I can go before school starts. Why are your friends’ plans more important?

You care more about your friends than your own sister. You are so selfish.”

Her sister started berating her and calling her selfish.

I told her if she gave me proper notice, I could schedule it in, but I can’t drop everything and go the day of.

She was like, “I don’t have to do that like I’m scheduling an appointment with you.

You are literally my sister. You should want to help me.”

She then went on some long rant about me being selfish.

She said everyone in the family thinks I am selfish.

She even said I moved out and live alone because I’m selfish, etc. etc.

Now, she’s wondering if she should have just canceled her plans for her sister.

I suggested to her that she could just ask our brother who is off work and might be available.

But she kept spazzing and calling me selfish. I hung up and ended the call.

Am I wrong for not changing my plans?

I’m tired of being the typical eldest daughter/sibling that has to sacrifice for everyone.

That’s literally why I moved out recently.

Let’s find out what others have to say about this.

You are not her servant, says this one.

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This user shares their personal thoughts.

Screenshot 2025 09 07 at 1.02.44 PM Woman Refused To Go Shopping With Her Sister Because She Already Had Plans With Her Friends, So Now Shes Being Called Selfish

Here’s a valid point from this person.

Screenshot 2025 09 07 at 1.04.08 PM Woman Refused To Go Shopping With Her Sister Because She Already Had Plans With Her Friends, So Now Shes Being Called Selfish

This one thinks the sister is old enough to shop.

Screenshot 2025 09 07 at 1.05.08 PM Woman Refused To Go Shopping With Her Sister Because She Already Had Plans With Her Friends, So Now Shes Being Called Selfish

Finally, short and straightforward.

Screenshot 2025 09 07 at 1.05.49 PM Woman Refused To Go Shopping With Her Sister Because She Already Had Plans With Her Friends, So Now Shes Being Called Selfish

Putting yourself first does not make you selfish, especially to entitled siblings.

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