January 23, 2026 at 5:20 am

Sister Wants Her To Train Her Puppy, But She Already Told Her She Had To Do The Work Herself

by Jayne Elliott

cute brown and white puppy in green grass

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If you had experience with dog training, would you be willing to train your sister’s puppy for free if she asked you to?

In this story, one woman is in this exact situation, and she doesn’t want to train the puppy. She has told her sister from the beginning that she won’t be training the puppy.

Yet, she’s having second thoughts.

Let’s read the whole story.

AITA for only training the puppy things that are convenient to me?

I have a dog who is trained.

My sister (who is also my roommate) also has a “puppy” who is not really a puppy anymore and isn’t trained at all.

I made it clear I wouldn’t train the puppy and she shouldn’t get it, and I haven’t made any effort to train it.

She has trained the puppy with a couple commands.

So this puppy doesn’t know basic commands like sit, stay, recall, or anything really.

However I have “trained” it to “leave it” (meaning leave my dog alone) when I am training/playing with my own dog, and to leave my dog alone when I give my dog puzzles/enrichment toys.

My sister thinks that if I have enough time to do this I should help her out and actually train her puppy.

She doesn’t want to train the puppy.

I don’t think i’m a jerk because it’s not my puppy and I told her before she got it that I wouldn’t do that.

She thinks i’m a jerk because I have experience training dogs and have a little extra free time where I could be training the puppy.

My sister can’t afford to pay someone to train the puppy/bring it to puppy classes, and also works more than me so says she’s “too tired” to train the puppy.

Am I a jerk?

She established a boundary before her sister got the puppy. She doesn’t have to train it.

Let’s see how Reddit reacted to this story.

This person calls her sister “a bad dog parent.”

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Another person would love to train the puppy.

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Here’s a suggestion of what to tell her sister.

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This is a good point!

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Her sister shouldn’t have expected her to change her mind.

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