She Chose a Different Artist for Her New Tattoo—And Her Mother Accused Her of Being Disloyal to Her Sibling.
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Genuine support has limits, and one woman is learning that her mother apparently doesn’t recognize any.
Despite already getting three tattoos from her sister and encouraging her husband to get one too, all in celebration of her sister’s new tattooing career, she’s now facing accusations of family disloyalty over a completely separate tattoo.
Years before that, she’d already given in to her mother’s pressure once by canceling plans for a matching tattoo with a friend.
Now, after her husband received a birthday gift tattoo from a different artist entirely in a style her sister hasn’t learned, her mom escalated further, questioning her parenting and accusing her of not prioritizing family at all.
She’s questioning whether any tattoo not done by her sister will ever be acceptable in her mother’s eyes.
Keep reading for the full story.
AITA for getting a tattoo with somebody else and not my sister?
My sister (20F) finished her tattoo course this year, and she is very excited.
She is a dedicated person, and when she “graduated,” I (23F) got 3 tattoos with her; my husband (21M) also got a tattoo with her. However, she is starting her career; she can not do all styles of tattoos yet, and that’s okay.
Here’s where the drama comes in.
The problem started before my sister graduated, when she was starting her classes. One of my friends, who is a teacher just like me, decided to get a beautiful teacher-themed tattoo, and I thought it was amazing, so she invited me to do it with her; we would match!
Soon their mother gets involved in stirring up trouble.
When my mom (47F) found out about that, she texted me saying how sad she was with me, that I was a bad sister and was disappointing her. I ended up not getting the tattoo.
But before long, she decided to get a different tattoo from another artist, and her mother wasn’t happy.
Coming back to nowadays, my husband’s friend gave him a tattoo for his birthday. He paid for my husband to go to another tattoo artist; it was great, the tattoo is beautiful, and it’s not a style my sister has done yet.
Once again, her mother meddles in her business.
When my mom saw the post of the new tattoo, she sent me some messages: “You not only don’t consider us a priority in life, as you’ve said before, but you also look down on us. I didn’t like the post, I felt nauseous. Was I really such a failure in raising you?” She sent more, but you can already feel the tone with these lines.
So Reddit, AITA for getting a tattoo with somebody else and not my sister?
This mom needs to mind her own dang business.
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What did Reddit have to say?
This woman has already done more than enough to support her sister.
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Her mother’s expectations are completely unreasonable.
There’s nothing wrong with wanting a variety of different tattoo styles.
Her mother is taking this all so much worse than her sister ever has.
A track record of genuine support three tattoos deep should count for something.
Framing a completely unrelated tattoo as evidence of family disrespect stretches the situation far beyond anything reasonable.
It’s clear this mother has a troubling history of guilt tripping, but eventually she needs to learn that she can’t control her children’s’ lives.
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