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Getting feedback at work is to be expected. But it’s usually about a skill, fixing mistakes, or being more productive.

In this employee’s case, it wasn’t about any of these things. It was about personality and socializing.

Everything seemed normal; she was actually doing well at her job, when suddenly the energy shifted, and people started looking at her like there was something wrong.

Until someone from corporate actually revealed what was “wrong,” and apparently it was her introverted personality.

Now she’s considering leaving.

Read the full story below.

A job I’ve had for 4 months just told me that I need to be “less introverted”.

Hello. This is my first time posting in this sub and I guess I’m just venting but advice is welcome.

Basically, I’ve had my job for 4 months. I caught on quickly and was told I was doing a good job and even got a good probationary review.

Now to the point, last week, I was approached by someone from corporate who said she was worried about me and asked if I’m an introvert and if I have anxiety, which I do.

They told me I need to learn how to manage my anxiety better.

That doesn’t feel right. But it gets worse.

I’m seeing a psychiatrist and taking meds so idk what else I’m supposed to do to manage it, like wth?! I don’t have panic attacks or meltdowns so I don’t know where that came from.

Now this morning, I was approached by a different person and was told the same thing.

He said I need to “come out of my shell to be successful”. Obviously they’ve been talking about me.

I have never had this problem at any other workplace. But why wait until I’m four months in to bring it up? Why is it suddenly a problem now?

She feels personally attacked for no good reason.

I took it personally because this is who I am. I can’t necessarily help my personality and I shouldn’t have to put myself out there and force myself to be uncomfortable to accommodate ANYONE.

It’s an attack on my character, intentional or not.

I’m trying to comfort myself and say that they’re the problem, not me. They’re simply not my people.

She has a point.

But why wait until now to call me out??

I come in and get my job done right, never been late. So why is it an issue that I’m quiet and reserved?

Only one person from corporate is here today and she keeps looking at me like I have 3 heads.

Currently brushing up my resume because **** that noise. I’m done. Thanks for reading.

That’s discrimination against introverts, plain and simple. What did Reddit think?

A reader shares their thoughts.

This commenter vents their frustrations.

I agree.

Another reader vents.

It really is.

Some people need to read the book Quiet as soon as possible. There is gold information in there about how well introverts actually perform in groups and alone.

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Imagine if society was reversed and they came up to extroverted people and told them to shut up more often and to take more time to think about things instead of talking so much. That would be absurd, and so is this.

We need diversity, and that includes different personalities such as introverts and extroverts.

Acting like introversion is a flaw feels so outdated to me; it’s so not. It’s that society was pretty much built for extroverts, which only makes us introverts withdraw and observe even more.

It’s not so surprising she’s looking for a new job after feeling judged for just being herself.

Wanting every cat to be a dog would be a mistake.

Her qualities deserve to be appreciated even if they’re not loud.