The shift from adolescence to adulthood is harsh to the person going through it, but it can also be very hard and even awkward for parents.

In this case, a couple shares that their 18-year-old daughter has spent most of her free time with her boyfriend for the past two years, while becoming increasingly dismissive of their requests or attempts to set boundaries.

Things escalated to her turning off her location after being told she couldn’t stay at a friend’s house and leaving in the middle of a serious conversation with her parents.

Her boyfriend’s family also started to make decisions without including them.

How would you feel in their situation?

Read the full story below.

AITA for telling our 18-year-old daughter she can’t go on a trip to Miami with her boyfriend’s family?

My daughter is 18 and starts her dream college in a couple of months.

For the past two years, she has spent almost all of her free time at her boyfriend’s house. We’ve asked her to spend more time with our family, but nothing has changed.

Recently, she asked at the last minute to sleep over at a friend’s house. We said no because it was so last minute.

She turned off her location anyway. The next night, she stayed at her boyfriend’s house.

Typical teenage behavior going on.

At 2 a.m. she called us for a ride home, and when we arrived, his parents had just gotten home from the airport and had no idea she had been staying there.

The next day, we told her we wanted to have a serious conversation about trust and respect before she went back to her boyfriend’s house.

While we were in the middle of talking, her boyfriend came to our door asking her to dinner.

We said no because we were still having the conversation.

She left with him anyway.

They feel disrespected.

The following day, his parents texted us asking if she could go to Miami with them for their son’s tennis tournament.

We later learned they had already bought her plane ticket before asking us.

This isn’t the first time.

They previously wanted to take her on a two-day trip, and when we said no because she had a dental appointment, a college orientation Zoom, and a graduation party, they told us it would really help their son emotionally because he’s having a hard time with her getting into her dream college (before this there was a chance they would attend the same school).

They’re not feeling good about this dynamic.

At this point, we don’t want her to go to Miami.

We feel like trust has been broken, our boundaries have been ignored by both our daughter and her boyfriend’s family, and buying a plane ticket before getting our approval crossed a line.

We know she’s legally an adult, but she still lives at home, doesn’t pay rent, has access to a car and phone, and we’re getting ready to foot the bill for college, and we’re trying to maintain some family boundaries before she leaves.

AITA?

Communication is so important and respect goes both ways. What did Reddit think?

A reader shares their thoughts.

This person agrees they’re in the wrong.

This person thinks they’re offering help with strings attached.

Another reader chimes in.

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Something to consider.

I’d say her behavior sounds healthy for her age, in principle.

It’s also easy to understand why her parents feel this way, considering their perspective.

But it’s like no one is really in the wrong.

Their communication definitely needs improvement.

It’s just an awkward shift of expectations and boundaries and perhaps they need to all sit as one family and talk.