If you’re gonna take the big leap and move in with someone, it’s a good idea to have all the details about finances worked out before you carry that first box through the front door.

Because if someone throws you a curveball after you move in, there are gonna be some problems.

The woman who wrote this story explained why she was caught off guard after her boyfriend changed up the terms of their living arrangement.

Check out what she had to say.

AITA for not wanting to pay rent and all the groceries to my boyfriend who owns his house (no mortgage)?

“My boyfriend, 45M and I, 33F, have been together for about a year and I moved in with him about a month ago.

We have gotten stuck on this rent thing a few times and I need an outside perspective.

He owns his own home outright, so there is no mortgage. It is a 2 bed, 2 bath house. One room is his office/hobby room, while I am a real estate agent, so if I need to work I do it in the living room/dining room, which is fine with me.

They had a deal…

Early on in the relationship, he said if I moved in, I would pay for all the groceries and that would be it. This is the deal he had with his ex, but they were together for 7 years.

Then as it got closer to moving in, he changed his mind and said he wanted me to pay rent in addition to paying for all the groceries. Rent would be $400 + groceries for him and I.

She thinks this is pretty unfair.

When I moved in, rent was never mentioned and hasn’t been for the last month until we got in a fight last night. On one hand, I get paying something, splitting all costs (utilities, property tax, etc.), splitting or even me keeping paying for all the groceries.

He feels like I would be taking advantage of him by not paying a rent, and I feel slightly taken advantage that what I would be paying would be covering all the groceries and that $400 would also cover all the utilities plus some.

On one side I am saving money being here, so he should also be saving money, but what amount or split is fair?”

Let’s see what readers had to say about this.

This person weighed in.

Another reader shared their thoughts.

This individual said she’s NTA.

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And this person said they both SUCK.

They need to figure this out immediately or they’re gonna be in for some hard times!

Maybe signing a contract is a good idea?

Just a thought…

She’s definitely not cool with this arrangement!