Money problems are usually cited as the number one reason contributing to divorce. Many couples start things out being on the same page, but over time, nasty habits and selfish patterns often emerge.

What would you do if your partner spent your long-term savings on something entirely for them instead of you? One woman recently reached her wits’ end about her husband’s behavior like this on Reddit. Here’s what she said.

AITA for planning a solo vacation without telling my husband?

Last year, after both of us had saved for several years, my husband bought a brand new hybrid truck.

We had discussed prior to this purchase that after this, our next big purchases – which we would start saving for – would be 1) a new car for me and 2) a “real” vacation.

Both seem like reasonable goals to save for.

This year, my husband’s friend convinced him that he needed a dirt bike so they could go riding together on the weekends.

I was against this and when my husband repeatedly brought it up, I what we had agreed upon when he bought his truck.

Over the course of a few months, he wore me down and I eventually agreed he could get his dirt bike.

She should have stood her ground.

Of course, in addition to the bike, he needed all the gear and tools to take care of it, plus a new Ring camera to have on the out building where it’s stored.

This adds up to a pretty hefty sum.

This guy doesn’t sound like he’s thinking about her needs at all.

My husband is now planning a trip for this year to go back to our home state for his oldest brother’s second wedding (we did not go to his first).

Again, we had discussed a “real” vacation, specifically negating going back “home” for a couple years as we have already visited last year and were going to save that money.

She should be fed up with this.

I have now done something that I never thought I would do.

I opened a savings account of my own, without his name on it, and I’ve started saving towards a solo vacation for myself since he is obviously more interested in spending our savings on other things.

I haven’t told him about the account because I feel that if he knows about the money, he will find something else to spend it on.

Sounds like there are quite a lot of communication issues happening here.

I haven’t told him about my plans to take a solo vacation because I feel if he knows about it, he’ll try to manipulate my plans to fit something that he wants rather than what I want.

AITA for not telling him my plans?

This guy might need a taste of his own medicine to get the hint. Let’s see if the good people of Reddit agreed.

The comments immediately jumped to diagnose the bigger issue at hand.

And urged the OP to address the problem with her husband.

Somebody put the situation into proper perspective.

If you enjoyed this post, check out this story about a woman who got family pushback after gifting jewelry to her stepdaughter.

Another asked the important questions.

But ultimately, assertiveness was agreed upon by all.

Who needs travel when your spouse is this much of a trip?