“You Can’t Ask That!”: Cousin’s Last-Minute Wedding Request Sparks Intense Family Feud
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While most people can agree that wedding culture has gotten out of control, it’s pretty widely understood that one special day usually tallies up to a large bill. Therefore, keeping the focus on the bride and groom is paramount.
What would you do if your extended family member was wildly insistent on making your big day about themselves? Would you stand up to them or let them take over?
One woman recently shared an insane personal story about about this exact situation. Here’s what happened.
AITA cousin wants to hand out invites at my wedding
My cousin 28F and I 24F aren’t super close and she wants to hand out invites for her wedding on my wedding day.
My cousin had gotten engaged September of 25 and there was no talks about a wedding because her fiance was 5 states away for a job and they weren’t living together at that point.
No one knew when they were going to get married but they assumed 27 or 28.
Not a ton of communication going on in this family.
Earlier this month my brother graduated from college and my cousin and I were at the party chatting.
The conversations were fine but when I would talk to other people or a group, anytime I would say something she would cut me off and try to make me sound stupid or try to undermined me.
This goes on for about 2 hours straight until half way in I’m just zoning her out like I used to do at holidays.
Most people can relate to having a relative like that.
She then mentions to me that she is getting married in February of 27 and she plans on giving out invites at my wedding since mine is in August.
That comment goes straight over me head and I just pick a new subject.
At the end of our conversation she also makes a loud call out to me in front of everyone that we need to have coffee and talk.
She sounds like a real life of the party.
A week later I’m processing that comment and I’m annoyed because she said she had the address and the stamps but just thought it was smarter to do it at my wedding day.
There is also a 90th birthday party for that side of the family that is happening 3 weeks after my wedding.
But she never mentioned giving them out there or even asking for my permission to do that at my wedding.
This is wildly presumptuous of her.
I explained to my parents how this feels like a power play and I refuse to be a doormat on my wedding day especially for her.
They didn’t believe it was bad until they got third party opinions and people were annoyed at my cousin.
I then sent her the message that said “I am not comfortable with you handing out invites on my wedding day. You can hand them out the day before or the day after, thank you for understanding.”
Seems like a perfectly reasonable boundary being set here. Let’s see if the Reddit community agreed.
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The comments section was in unanimous agreement.
Redditors were confounded by the cousin’s audacity.
One person offered a tangible solution.
If you enjoyed this post, check out this story about a woman who got family pushback after gifting jewelry to her stepdaughter.
Another person pointed out the logistical failures.
And reminders about wedding etiquette were duly noted.
This family doesn’t quite seem to grasp the concept of “something borrowed.”
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