After Years of Negative Reactions From Her Mom, She Chose Silence Instead of Sharing Anything Else
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Opening up to family gets difficult when every personal detail seems to trigger criticism.
Whenever she mentions something as ordinary as a doctor visit, her mother responds with accusations, complaints, or anger.
This time, being questioned about why she never confides in her leads to a blunt explanation backed by one particularly memorable example.
See why pointing out the pattern only sparks another argument.
AITA for telling my mother that I cannot confide in her because of her personality?
My mother does this thing where she will ask me where I went.
If I tell her I went to see the doctor, she will immediately start complaining that I am perfectly fine, that I am faking illness, trying to find an excuse, etc.
She thinks her mother complains no matter what she says.
If I refuse to say anything, she will complain that I am being rude to her, why can’t a mother ask their child where they went, etc.
I’m not sure why she does this, I think she is just looking for an excuse to complain about something.
This time, I tried asking “would you prefer it if I just didn’t go to the doctor till the doctor asks you why your child didn’t go to the doctor earlier?” (this would be the type of scenario when the patient should have gone to the doctor earlier and could have been saved if they did)
Her mother complained again.
This then led to her complaining that I never confide in her about my problems.
I then pointed out that with her personality, she would always fly into a rage every time I tried to confide in her.
She refused to believe this was true and started ranting about how she is a great mother, she didn’t divorce my father when he cheated on her, etc.
She wasn’t expecting that…
I then cited a simple example: I had just returned to a tropical climate from a country with a temperate climate.
My mother was sitting in the living room, I walked past and casually remarked that the heat had made me very sweaty.
She flew into a rage, screamed at me to go take a shower and not to talk to her about stuff like this.
That’s INSANE!
I was shocked by her reaction.
To my surprise, she did not deny this happened, as she usually does. She simply looked at me like I was stupid and asked “what’s wrong with that?”.
In disbelief, I tried asking her several times whether this was an appropriate reaction for a family member making a casual remark about the heat but she just kept insisting she did nothing wrong.
She’s so weird!
Then she blamed me for being selfish and walked off.
She came back after a while and started complaining that I am useless and how dare I complain about her personality when she worked so hard to raise me.
AITA for telling my mother that I cannot confide in her because of her personality?
I guess I could have just kept quiet or something?
OUCH! That sounds tiring to deal with.
Why does her mother complain about everything?
Let’s find out what folks on Reddit think about this one.
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This user suggests moving out as soon as possible.
This user suggests not opening up to the mom.
This user knows that often such topics don’t pan out nicely.
This user thinks moving out may solve most of her problems.
If you enjoyed this story, check out this post about a mom who can’t figure out why her babysitter quit after what she thought was a routine question.
This user knows that this girl did what her mom asked, and there’s nothing wrong with that.
OP explained that they stopped confiding in their mother because even harmless comments could provoke outsized reactions.
She rejected the criticism, defended her parenting, and eventually turned the complaint back on OP instead.
Pretty tough to demand honesty while making every conversation feel like a trap.
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