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In today’s family drama story, a vegan woman with a family of four shares that her in-laws have moved onto her property in an RV, while other relatives are temporarily staying with them during a cross-country move.

There are multiple kids involved, another grandchild has just moved into the house, and even more family members are expected to arrive over the next few weeks.

Although she is trying to be accommodating, something is bothering her a lot.

Nobody else in the extended family is vegan, and the OP isn’t comfortable with the smell of meat and eggs or the possibility of shared cookware being contaminated.

So now she’s wondering if she should speak up or just suck it up.

Read the full story below.

AITA if I ask my extended family that’s living w us to use their own pots & pans?

Facts:

We are a vegan family of four and have been for years.

My in-laws moved here 2 weeks ago and are living on our property in an rv (supposedly for only a few months).

They walk into our home whenever they please.

I’ve been watching 2 additional kids while their parents are across the country to finish up their move.

This is my 3rd week with kids ages 12, 10, 9, and 5.

My 16 y/o grandson also moved into our home this week.

It’s a lot.

Next week, the mom will be arriving and moving her and the 9 and 5y/o into our fifth wheel/camp trailer that has 3 beds/2 rooms.

The 16y/o will stay in our home.

The dad will be arriving 3 weeks from now and will move into the camp trailer. Their goal is to move across the country (in process) and live this way until they can have a house built.

No one else is vegan.

We’re buying an extra fridge/freezer for them.

She’s only human.

Feelings:

While everyone involved are very “the more the merrier,” I’m the complete opposite.

I feel like I’m stretched thin and bending so much on everything, while trying to be supportive because their moving their family of 5 across the country and starting over.

Massively stressful. I’ve done it. I get it.

I don’t like the smell of cooked meat or eggs.

The idea of possible contamination grosses me out. Cooking veggies and the like for years has definitely limited all that tolerance.

AITA?

Her home, her rules. What did Reddit think?

A reader shares their thoughts.

Yup.

I agree.

Very hard.

Another reader chimes in.

If you enjoyed this story, check out this post about a man whose mom thinks he should give the home he saved for to his “more deserving” sister.

Something to consider.

She should definitely just ask them, or even tell them, what she needs or doesn’t want going on on her property. And as soon as possible.

Because once the whole extended family is living there, “we’ll figure it out as we go” gets complicated very quickly.

Being afraid to offend family is understandable, but this isn’t even a big ask, and they should understand her side as well.

We’re often afraid to ask people for such small things.