Celebrating major milestones in a marriage is important and can be lots of fun.

What would you do if your adult daughter and her family tried to join you on your romantic 40th anniversary vacation?

That is what happened to the man in this story, so last minute he changed the vacation plans so he could spend time alone with his wife.

Now their daughter is ignoring them.

Check out the details for yourself!

AITA for abandoning my daughter on vacation?

My wife and I have always dreamed of celebrating our 40th anniversary with a luxurious vacation.

Just the two of us, reliving the romance of our early years.

We had it all planned out for years now and were excited beyond words.

Enter our adult daughter Jane.

Jane and her husband got wind of our plans and promptly invited themselves and their two children (9F, 5M) along.

Good for him!

I originally put my foot down and told them this trip was just for us which upset her some.

But my wife has a hard time saying no to Jane, as she is the youngest of our children and our only daughter, and she didn’t want to hurt her feelings, so she reluctantly agreed to let them join.

I wasn’t thrilled about it at the time, but I wanted to make my family happy.

I knew my wife was also okay with the idea of a “family” trip even if she was heartbroken we wouldn’t get our romantic trip.

We went along with it.

The place we were originally going was not child friendly so we changed course and decided on an all inclusive family friendly resort.

We paid for the resort and our grandchildren’s plane tickets.

Jane and her husband only had to pay for their own airfare.

Here’s where things get complicated.

As the vacation got closer, I started having a change of heart.

I certainly can’t blame him.

I realized that our 40th anniversary was a once-in-a-lifetime milestone, and I wanted to honor it in a way that was true to our original plans.

My wife and I might not be able to afford a trip like this again for quite some time and it’s something we always wanted to do.

So, without consulting anyone, I switched our tickets last minute to go to the romantic destination that my wife and I had originally planned for.

I did not tell Jane or her husband.

I didn’t even tell my wife until the day before our flight left, which was a day before Jane’s flight left for their vacation.

It wasn’t an easy decision and I feel guilty about it.

But I wanted our 40th anniversary to be the special, intimate celebration we had always hoped for.

We called Jane after we landed to tell her and she was extremely upset to say the least.

So she admitted to trying to take advantage.

She seemed of the idea that we were going to look after our grandkids so she and her husband could have alone time and now that I abandoned her they would have to do it all themselves.

I hung up on them when my son-in-law started shouting and my wife and I enjoyed the rest of our trip.

They came back the same day we did but have not answered any of our texts and Jane seems to be ignoring me.

My wife told me she vastly preferred our trip to the family trip we would have taken, but she still doesn’t like how Jane is mad at us and wants me to apologize.

I would apologize just to keep the peace.

I’m not sure I want to after learning Jane and her husband were using us for free babysitting and a free trip, but I feel like I should just to keep the peace.

Was I wrong for changing our trip destination last minute and leaving Jane and her family to fend for themselves?

AITA?

Maybe this wasn’t the best way to handle the situation, but I can hardly blame the guy.

Let’s read what the people in the comments had to say.

It was a bold move.

The entitlement is off the charts.

Parenting takes sacrifice.

Yeah, she got a free trip and still isn’t grateful.

This person says the daughter should have planned a separate trip.

I can’t believe the daughter even asked to tag along.

Only child syndrome for sure.

If you enjoyed this story, check out this post about a daughter who invited herself to her parents’ 40th anniversary vacation for all the wrong reasons.