Last-minute changes are part of life, but communication and coordination are still key parts of married life.

Her husband’s impulsive trip and emotional demands came just as she prepared for a milestone in her career. And for once, she wasn’t sure she should be the one to bend to his whims.

She’s standing up for herself, and he doesn’t like it.

You’ll want to read on for this one!

AITAH for not skipping a work trip because my husband is recovering from a hair transplant?

My husband flew overseas for a hair transplant.

We have two children under seven.

I work full-time in a stressful corporate role.

He never plans or researches in advance.

So of course, he decides to schedule something at the worst possible time.

I am supposed to go on a work trip for two days—a two-day work planning retreat.

It is important exposure.

He will be “post-op” for three days by the time I leave.

And when she refused to adjust her plans, he started guilt tripping her.

Last night, he texted that he needed me to cancel my trip because “he is recovering from surgery,” “put him first,” and “I’m going to be beyond mad if you do this to me and do not put me first the one time I am asking.”

He also said that if I go, he won’t take the kids to school.

His head may be sore and bald, but that should not impede a pick-up and drop-off.

Her trip has been planned, but he just sprung his plans on her last minute.

My trip has been planned for about six months.

His main gripe is that he will be seen so close to surgery.

He did not need to choose this date, and up until yesterday, this was the plan.

He told me my “trip is stupid.”

She’s used to sacrificing her needs, so she thinks her husband should take a turn this time.

I put everyone first, but I don’t think I need to stay home and miss something so important for this. I also think it is selfish to be saying this to me.

I am always impacted by his last-minute changes and impulses. I am supportive of doing something that makes him feel better about himself, but why should I miss this last minute?

AITA, or is he being selfish?

Simply asking her husband to meet her halfway shouldn’t have ended like this.

What did Reddit have to say?

This user makes an important distinction.

This commenter doesn’t mince words with this husband.

If it was up to this Redditor, they would have said this:

Maybe he planned this whole thing just to sabotage her?

He may have called it selfishness, but she called it finally standing her ground.

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