Good news travels fast – most of the time.

Sometimes it needs to be carefully metered out, and that can cause some hurt feelings.

For instance, what if you’re the last limb on the family tree to get the good word?

AITAH for not telling my aunt I’m pregnant?

I’m (28F) pregnant with my first and have a large family.

I waited to tell my family about it due to my uncle passing away shortly after we found out.

I immediately told one of my aunts, let’s call her A.

We’re very close so I told her a week after I found out.

I found out a couple months later that she accidentally told my other aunt, her sister.

Let’s call her R. (60F)

There’s some troubled history with R, apparently.

I didn’t hear from R when she found out which wasn’t surprising since we’re not close at all.

I haven’t talked to her in over 2 years and I don’t even have her number.

She’s always kept her distance from us and none of us are close with her. As in my cousins and siblings.

But then everybody knew.

We decided to start telling people about the baby and I told my 2 uncles, A and R’s brothers.

Just a quick FB message.

I have a good relationship with them both but I’m by far the closest with A.

According to A, R found out I told them about the pregnancy and was very mad that I didn’t tell her.

I didn’t think I needed to tell her because she already knew and we haven’t spoken in years.

But now I’m feeling guilty because I did tell her siblings.

In hindsight, did she do anything wrong?

Yes I didn’t have her number but I could’ve gotten it from another family member.

Now I’m wondering if I should reach out and apologize?

Side note- she hates my dad (her brother) which does make things more awkward.

AITAH for not telling her? Should I apologize?

Here’s what the comments had to say:

Ultimately, it’s your decision.

I’m not sure what she was expecting.

It’s downright Shakespearean.

In any case, congratulations!

It’s really no one else’s business.

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