Parenting when sick is really hard, but at the end of the day you’re still a parent and you still have to be there for your kids.

What happens when one parent is left holding all of the responsibility because the other parent has the sniffles? Is that fair or lazy?

These parents are not on the same page. Let’s see what happens.

AITA for expecting my husband to parent while being sick?

My husband and I have a 2.5 year old. He got sick with a cold yesterday and so today he stayed home from work.

I usually handle all the parenting and house chores (at least most) during the day so it wasn’t hard to leave him alone to rest in the morning. He played some video games and laid in bed the whole time.

By afternoon, I logged in to work so I let my toddler run around around the house, in our room, wherever. I wasn’t really paying attention since she was fed and happy and my husband was downstairs while I was upstairs in my office.

Later things got messy.

As dinner time rolled around, I logged off and made dinner.

He still was laying around, which was fine because he is sick.

After dinner, I went to his parents with my daughter just to drop off some things and help out my mother in law for an hour.

When I told her my husband was sick, she gave me a bunch of food for him and kept asking if I gave him medicine and that’s only then when I began to get a little irritated.

It’s been a long day, but it’s not over yet.

I got home and my daughter was fussy since it was a little past her usual bedtime. The house was a mess, dinner still needed to be cleaned up.

I already knew I would need to but for some reason I just felt so frustrated in the moment.

My husband walked out and I just began to clean, letting him deal with our daughter.

At first, it took him 20 minutes just to get her into clothes.

Then she lost it on him.

By then I was finishing up cleaning.

He put her in bed without brushing her teeth and I had to remind him to brush her teeth.

That’s when he started grumbling about how he’s sick and he doesn’t have energy to handle her when she’s fussy.

I lost it and almost yelled at him to just brush her teeth and go to bed.

He said I was being unreasonably mean.

She’s too frustrated to sleep.

We haven’t really talked much after.

He brushed her teeth and they both went to sleep right away. I just can’t sleep. I’m so frustrated still.

When I’m sick, my routine doesn’t change. The only thing different is that I either don’t work, or work half as much hours.

When I’m sick, I still do all the house and parenting duties. Am I really the AH for expecting him to do parenting duties while sick?

She knows her husband is sick, but she doesn’t think that’s an excuse not to help around the house at all.

Here is what folks are saying on Reddit.

Definitely. Acting like this solves nothing.

Then all of a sudden he’ll understand. For a few days.

LOL not ebola. He sounds like a baby.

A good way to assess things.

It definitely sounds like weaponized incompetence.

He’s using being sick as an excuse to be lazy.

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