Helping out your family can be a good thing to do, but sometimes it gets to the point where they are just taking advantage of you.

What would you do if your two younger siblings and your mother were constantly asking you for money and that seems to be all they ever cared about from you?

That is what was happening to the big sister in this story, so finally she cut them off and now they are angry at her.

Check it out.

AITA for telling my sister I won’t be breaking my back trying to be a big sister anymore?

I (24F) am the oldest of three. My mom, sister, and brother all regularly ask me for money.

They are just taking advantage of her.

They don’t ever ask how I’m doing, what I’m going through, or where the money even comes from—they just… ask. It’s constant.

Recently, all three of them asked me for money in the same day. I took a screenshot of my messages and sent it to my sister saying something like, “You’re all relying on me honestly.”

I was trying to make them see how much they expect from me and how exhausting it is.

Yes, she is a sister, not a provider.

Her response? “But you’re the big sister.”

That made me feel like my feelings didn’t matter and my only purpose was to financially support everyone else—like I owe them this just because of birth order.

I told her I wasn’t going to “break my back” anymore trying to be a big sister when nobody seems to care about me in return.

Wow, how can her younger sister call her selfish?

Now my sister says I’m being selfish and cold, and my mom has been quiet but I can tell she’s not happy either. I know they struggle, but so do I.

I don’t have endless money, and it hurts that they don’t even bother to ask if I’m okay before asking for something.

So, am I wrong for refusing to keep overextending myself just because I’m “the big sister”?

AITA?

Not at all, you have to cut people off eventually or they will never live within their means.

Let’s see what the people in the comments think about it.

I would be so upset in this situation.

I bet she feels like an ATM.

I agree, this is enabling, not helping.

I was wondering this as well.

This commenter says to set firm boundaries.

Eventually you need to set boundaries or people will walk all over you.

That applies to family as well.

If you thought that was an interesting story, check this one out about a man who created a points system for his inheritance, and a family friend ends up getting almost all of it.