It is true when they say there’s nothing that a conversation can’t fix!

However, this lady found herself at a crossroad where she isn’t even sure about having a conversation at all!

Find out how this lady tried telling her husband that she’s tried of working too much.

WIBTA if I asked my husband to renegotiate our current meal prep arrangement?

My husband (30M) and I (29F) have been married for about 1.5 years, together for 7 years, and living together for 4.5 years – no children.

This is where things get tricky…

Throughout our entire relationship, I have made significantly more money than he has, until a few months ago; he was promoted at work, so he now makes slightly more than I do.

Even though I used to make more than him, I have always been the one to take on all of the domestic labor (meal planning, grocery shopping, cooking, cleaning, etc.) even though we both work full time – this has been the case ever since we first moved in together.

At first, I thought me performing these tasks was the natural way of relationships because he would always tell me that I do them so much better and they are my responsibility since my standards are so high.

She has been doing everything on her own!

Lately, though, I have been feeling like it’s unfair of me to continue to take on all of these tasks while we both work full time and equally contribute to the bills, especially the tasks involving meal planning/prepping.

I should probably clarify that up until recently, I was too self-conscious, insecure, and scared of him leaving me to stand up for myself. This is no longer the case.

I am super into working out and eating healthy, homecooked meals, so I try to be very intentional with the food I eat – I also like variety (for example, I am open to eating vegetarian/vegan meals every once in a while).

That sounds so FRUSTRATING!

On the other hand, my husband is a creature of habit and likes to eat the same things over and over. He also NEEDS to eat meat with every single meal, and doesn’t really care whether the meal is healthy or not.

The work involving the food we eat is the only thing I’d want to change because it takes up the majority of my mental load.

I’m tired of being the one to check in with him every week to make sure we’re on the same page as far as what I’ll make. I’m also tired of constantly compromising what I would like to eat in order to accommodate his requests.

That’s INSANE!

To clarify, I am tired of doing all of this for free, essentially. Apparently, it can cost $750 per week to hire a personal chef, so I feel like I need to emphasize this value to him.

I’m thinking of presenting him with two choices:

I will continue to do what I am currently doing for us on the condition that every time we order take out or go out on date night, he always pays; currently, we take turns paying for each other.

She simply wants him to contribute!

I think this option is more than fair because since I am already cooking for the majority of the week, he would definitely not spend nearly as much as $750 per week.

If he doesn’t want to pay for every takeout order and date night, then I will use my own money to grocery shop and cook for myself.

He will have to figure out all his meals every week, but I will continue to take turns paying for each other on weekends when we order out.

Would I be the AH if I sat him down and presented him with these options when I’ve allowed our dynamic to be what it is for so long?

GEEZ! That sounds like a lot of work!

Why wouldn’t she call him out for his behavior earlier?

Let’s find out what folks on Reddit think about this one.

This user is happy that this lady finally decided to talk it out.

This user knows this girl is responsible for her own meal prep but she doesn’t have to do it for the husband.

This user thinks maybe this girl needs to re-evaluate her marriage.

This user knows that the husband is incompetent!

This user has a simpler way of going about this situation.

Someone’s a little frustrated here!

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