Her mornings are tightly scheduled  waking up at 4:30 a.m. to squeeze in a workout, shower, quiet time, and get herself and her daughter ready before a 7 a.m. departure). It’s the only time she has for herself in an otherwise packed day.

So when her husband secretly turned off her alarm so she could “sleep in” and spend time with him, it didn’t land as romantic, it threw her entire day into chaos.

Read on for the story.

AITAH for refusing to skip my morning routine for my husband?

Gosh I’m so frustrated right now. I don’t usually post on reddit but life has been so tough and I need input if I’m being irrational. Of course, this is my side so take that in mind. We are both mid 20s.

I have to leave the house by 7ish to get to work on time. My daughter’s daycare is in the same building. I only get home at 6 and there’s dinner, cleaning up, playtime with our daughter and then by 8pm, is bedtime so after that is our free time which we count as our bonding time.

I spend my lunches with my daughter. The only time I have to work out or for self care is in the morning and so over time, I started waking up earlier.

A self sacrifice.

I have to wake up no later than 430 to have time to get a good workout in, shower, have a 20 minute bible study, and then it’s the crazy rush of getting myself, my daughter ready and our breakfast and lunches all before 7am. Plus making sure the cats are situated.

My husband refuses to get up earlier than 630. Which is fine, but it’s been frustrating on the days where my daughter wakes up while I’m working out. It’s my only me time!

And so it’s been an ongoing tension. For the past few months.

That’s mot fun.

His life is for himself it feels like. He wakes up around 7, gets himself ready to work, goes to work, goes to the gym for an hour, comes home same time as me.

After work, he pretty much does the cleaning while I’m busy making dinner but there’s times he leaves it for a few days and it’s so stressful.

Anyway, by 8pm, he’s usually lounging around and wants to watch our shows. By 10, I’m out like a light.

Woof.

Last night. He had a bright idea to TURN OFF my alarm so that I could sleep in and we could have morning woo-hoo time.

I woke up at 630am and started crying because !!! I have to leave within 30 minutes and I didn’t even get to get my mind ready for the day yet and there’s so much to do.

He got confused and was trying to get me in the mood but I was not having it. He got upset and said that Im being selfish because I cant skip my morning routine for my husband.

WOWWW.

I asked him why he didn’t initiate last night or woke up a little earlier (where I would have been more than welcoming) and he said he was tired.

We had an argument but I had to get ready so I rushed out and was late to work by an hour, WITHOUT any workout or Bible time.

The most frustrating part was that he just got up, got ready and left the house. As he left the house, I asked him if he scooped the litterbox or fed the cats and he said no and closed the door.

It’s getting worse.

Like I said, this is my side. I’m sure his side includes a hysterical lady who stresses out too much.

But I don’t think I’m wrong to stick to my routine every morning, but I could be wrong. Please tell me your thoughts on this? I need honesty.

Also I appreciate anyone who actually reads this because it probably sounds like nonsense rambling sorry!

Redditors were quick to weigh in on the fact that this was a major breach of respect and boundaries.

This person says the husband is super selfish.

This person says a conversation has to be had.

And this person has quite the question.

Turning off someone’s alarm isn’t romance, it’s scheduling sabotage.

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