Life doesn’t always give you lemons. Sometimes there’s opportunities you shouldn’t say no to!

This girl shares how her uncle offered to pay for her studies but her dad refused.

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WIBTA if I asked my uncle to help with college tuition even though I don’t know him very well?

For context, I (18F) am finishing school this year. I don’t live in the UK, US or Canada, but I am taking A levels as per the UK curriculum.

This is where things get tricky for her…

So for reasons outside of my control I will only be able to get 2 out of three of my A Level subjects. For anyone unfamiliar with this system, it means I basically have half a transcript.

I really thought my life was over because no local colleges will accept me with only two subjects.

Despite this I did get accepted to multiple colleges in Canada in a field I’m so excited about, I’ve also done some work experience.

I understand part of why I was accepted is that international student fees are much higher and can help the college a lot. But the college offers many bursaries and awards that I will be eligible for after starting.

She was not expecting that…

Ultimately we would only be paying for the first semester of tuition & have to show proof of living expenses for my first year. It comes out to about 33k CAD. Also my program has a mandatory Co-op, and there are jobs I can get on campus so I’ll be earning while I’m there.

This is still very expensive but maybe relevant for my question.

The second reason as stated in the title is I don’t know my uncle well at all. Technically he’s my gruncle, my grandmothers brother.

I only met him once during a family reunion when I was 7, I can barely remember being that age & on top of this our family is so huge it’s difficult to remember everyone.

She’s in a rough spot…

My grandmother is the 7th of 13 siblings.

Many of them left the country for university & never came back so I don’t have a close relationship with any of them.

Despite this my uncle has very kindly offered to help with my tuition, unprompted by my grandmother, my dad or myself. My dad is the breadwinner & hasn’t been doing well financially for years.

The family is already helping out, but I’m not sure how much because he refuses to talk to me. I understand the way he is feeling as a father, but I wish I wasn’t kept in the dark so much.

UH OH…

I would have appreciated it if he had just sat me down & been honest. Instead he told me on the deadline to confirm my choice that it wasn’t possible. He said that next year will be better & I can apply again.

I kind of gave up on the idea altogether after being made aware of his struggles. I’ve decided to get a job and try and help him out, no matter how small it is.

My parents are completely against it & won’t give me a straight answer as to why or what they would rather I do for the next year.

I was really surprised when he offered to help during a family dinner while uncle was visiting. My dad also seemed surprised but declined his offer.

She’s super confused about the whole thing!

Again I don’t know the family very well and I’m kept in the dark a lot so I’m not sure if there an issue there or a reason why he won’t accept.

So WIBTA if I asked my dad to just accept the offer?

I’m so worried it will strain my relationship with my dad, my potential relationship with my uncle or even the relationship between my dad and uncle.

YIKES! That sounds like a tricky situation.

She doesn’t want to hurt her dad but also needs the money!

Let’s find out what folks on Reddit think about this one.

That’s right! This user thinks this girl can take matters in her hands and make the decision.

This user knows this girl needs to choose for herself.

This user knows this girl should go for the offer!

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This user knows it is like accepting any other opportunity!

This user suggests taking the offer!

Somebody needs to make a quick decision here!