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Birthdays feel less festive when arranging dinner becomes another bill you are expected to cover.

Should the person who regularly treats everyone else still finance their own celebration?

This devoted foodie offered to pay if necessary, but their mother’s contrasting plans for a sibling made the imbalance sting.

Read on for the full frustrating breakdown.

AITA: For wanting to cancel my birthday dinner?

I’m a foodie and love trying to new restaurants in the city.

I always invite my family (senior mom on a fixed income and i have 2 siblings in their late 30s with full-time jobs, one of my siblings is married.)

I never had an issue for paying for their meal.

She is very generous.

I love brunch and have always taken them out during the holidays for brunch at the fancy hotels.

I always pay, and have never asked for them to pay for themselves cause they are joining my on something I love to do.

My birthday is coming up and my family has been asking me where I wanted to go. I suggested a restaurant that would be mid-range pricewise.

When I told my mom she asked me who was paying for the meal. I told her I wasn’t sure, but if they needed me to pay I would.

Her answer and other actions really rub her the wrong way.

She told me to figure out who’s paying and decide on a restaurant based on that.

I feel like it’s my birthday and seeming how I pay ALL the other times we go out someone else would be ok paying the bill? Or we could split if it’s an issue?

What got me, is that one of my siblings birthday is a week after mine.

My mom keeps going on about how shes going to treat them for breakfast that day and never even asked who’s paying for the family dinner for them.

This whole situation has made me just want to cancel my birthday dinner with the family. AITA?

Here is what folks are saying.

I’d probably cancel, too.

Feeling used is the worst. How sad.

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Good point. It’s still sad, though.

That sounds uncomfortable.

If you enjoyed this story, check out this post about a sister who feels badly about unknowingly encouraging her younger brother to play with bullies.

Wow harsh.

This family member routinely pays for shared outings, yet faced immediate questions about financing their own modest birthday dinner.

Their mother openly planned to treat a sibling one week later, making the desire to cancel understandable rather than ungrateful.

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Chris Allen