She Let Her Friend Move In Rent-Free After A Breakup, But A Year Later, Her Friend Keeps Demanding More
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Sure, it’s nice to be nice. It makes us feel good, and it helps other people out too, so it’s a real win-win situation. And while most of us are happy to help out most folk we come across, when it comes to being nice to our friends and family, we tend to go above and beyond. Because when you care deeply for another person, it’s normal to want to be there for them, and when they need something that you have in abundance, of course you’re more than willing to share.
So when the woman in this story found herself inheriting a house from her aunt, she was more than happy to allow her friend to move in during her time of need. After all, what are friend for if not to help you when you’re struggling? She even refused to charger her friend rent, since she didn’t have a mortgage to pay, and she was more than generous in dividing up the space in the house. But give an inch and she’ll take a mile, because now her friend is demanding even more.
Read on to find out why.
AITA for not giving my roommate more space?
I (29, female) am a homeowner, since I inherited a three bedroom house after my Aunt died of cancer two years ago.
She had no children and we were close, so it was a no brainer that she’d leave it to me.
I spent the first year after the house passed to me renovating it and making it feel like mine, and it was around the time this finished that my friend (29, female) had to leave her boyfriend’s flat after they broke up.
She didn’t have a backup plan, so I let her move in with me and told her she was of course welcome to stay.
Let’s find out more about the practicalities of this living situation.
I gave her the second largest bedroom which is 13 square meters with its own bathroom. I have the master bedroom, and the box room is my office as I work from home.
I told her that the bedroom she had was her space and to decorate it however she wanted. Beyond that she had access to all communal areas of the house, the living room, kitchen, the garden.
The only places I asked her to not go was my bedroom (uninvited), my office, and the loft which I’d renovated into my D&D room.
I’m a DM and my party meets every Saturday to play.
Read on to find out how things were going.
It’s been a year and I thought things were going well. I don’t charge her rent, my only request is she split the utility bills and the groceries bill.
I had a few rules but nothing insane. A heads up if she had an overnight guest, no loud noise after 11pm on a weekday and to keep her own space clean.
But she has randomly told me yesterday that she needs more space.
She says that it’s not fair she only has her bedroom, bathroom and the communal areas while I have my bedroom, bathroom, office, loft, and communal areas.
Let’s see how this woman felt about her friend’s complaint.
I was shocked, since she’d never expressed any unhappiness with this layout that I’d noticed.
I told her that yeah I had more space, but she had to keep in mind it was my house and I’d set up these spaces for me before she even came to stay.
She got upset with this and said I was being unfair and we need to rethink the layout of the house.
This has made me a bit uncomfortable. I let her stay when she had nowhere else to go and I was happy to give her free control over her own space, but I can’t help but feel this is rather ridiculous.
AITA?
This woman is being more than generous to her friend, not even charging her rent to live in her home.
So as for the roommate who is demanding more space?
Perhaps if she wants more room for herself, she needs to find a place of her own.
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Let’s see what the Reddit community made of this.
This person agreed that the friend needed to find somewhere else to live.
While others thought she had massively overstepped.
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Meanwhile, this Redditor thought that the friend was the only person in the wrong here.
Genuinely, this woman was very kind to her friend in letting her move into her house with her. She was generous in not charging her rent, and in giving her a big bedroom and the freedom to decorate it however she wanted. She has been a model friend to this woman, who is now clearly taking her for granted. Because is everything she’s done for her not enough? Now she’s demanding more space – in someone else’s home, that she doesn’t even pay rent for?
The answer to this is simple. She needs to move out and into her own place. Only then will she get all the space she seemingly desires. But it will cost her – and after living rent-free for a year, the outgoings are going to come as quite a shock, especially if she moves into a new place on her own. But at this point, it seems like the only option, because with behaviour like this, she has really outstayed her welcome here.
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