Sometimes, setting boundaries can get you labeled as the bad guy.

So, what would you do if a family member repeatedly damaged your belongings, even after you tried redirecting the behavior?

Would you keep allowing them to come over to your apartment?

Or would you draw the line and refuse to let them visit?

In the following story, one older sister faces this exact decision and upsets her parents in the process.

Here’s what’s going on.

AITA for refusing to let my brother come over to my apartment?

I (20F) have a low-functioning autistic brother (7M).

He is non-verbal and does not use the toilet.

Instead, he tries to do his business on people’s chairs and couches for… Whatever reason.

Because of this, I no longer let him come to the apartment.

This all happened after one day, my parents dropped him off for me to babysit him. No biggie, I love my brother.

This is how it all started.

Well, 2 hours in, he decided to pull down his pants and pee all over my new, expensive couch.

I caught him halfway through and dragged him away from the couch, sat him on the toilet, and made him sit there for a few minutes.

This ended with him having a meltdown of epic proportions, one so bad I had to call my parents.

Now, she doesn’t want him to come back over.

After that, I decided I would no longer allow him to come over.

I’ve dealt with the couch ******* for months since this behavior started, and would always redirect him to the toilet.

Now that he ruined a piece of furniture I actually saved up for and care about, I can’t keep dealing with this anymore.

My parents are mad that he isn’t allowed at my apartment anymore and are calling me “selfish” over it.

AITA?

Yikes! This sounds like a tough situation.

Let’s check out what advice the fine folks over at Reddit have to offer.

This person suggests an ultimatum.

According to this comment, the parents are failing the little boy.

For this reader, he needs to be potty trained.

Harsh words, but very true.

Here’s a solution that could work.

Her reaction was warranted, but as others mentioned, his parents really need to step up.

It’s beyond time.

If you thought that was an interesting story, check out what happened when a family gave their in-laws a free place to stay in exchange for babysitting, but things changed when they don’t hold up their end of the bargain.