Family heirlooms often carry deep emotional meaning and sentimental value.

If you had biological children and stepchildren, would you give your bio children preference when it comes to family heirlooms, or would you treat all the children equally?

This woman is expecting a baby. She and her two stepdaughters have been preparing a photo book while sharing memories.

One of the girls expressed interest in her wedding dress and rings for her future wedding, but her stepmom shot her down.

Now, she’s wondering if she should’ve handled it differently.

Check out the full story below to find out more.

Aitah for telling my stepkids that my kids will get my stuff?

Last weekend, I was getting ready to make a photo book for my baby who’s coming soon.

My stepdaughters being kids (13 and 11), they wanted to help and look through their photo books, so we looked through a few and we found pictures from me and their dad’s wedding and engagement.

My stepdaughter asked if I still had my dress.

I told her I did, and she asked if she could have it for her wedding.

This woman’s stepdaughter was so excited to assume that she would be getting her wedding dress and rings.

I didn’t get a chance to answer as she started going on about how she was going to look like me on her wedding day and just stuff like that.

She went on to looking through the book more and asked about my rings.

I told her they were my great-grandma’s, and we just made them more my style and fixed them a little bit.

She asked if when she was older, could she have them for her wedding?

She calmly explained to them that her biological daughter should get first dibs of her stuff.

I softly explained that I would rather have my biological daughter get first dibs of stuff and that their mom probably has family heirlooms.

That made them kinda sad, so when they went home, I’m assuming they told their mom and that made her mad.

She called us and told me that why should some new kid get something over her kids.

She explained the same thing to her stepdaughters’ mother.

I explained to her that I would rather any bio kid have dibs first, and if my bio kids don’t want it, then it’s free game after that.

I also said that she should have stuff to pass down to her kids.

She said she doesn’t, as she didn’t have a wedding, and her family didn’t save stuff like that.

Now, everyone is mad at her, and she also feels bad about bursting the kids’ bubbles.

I told her that I could no longer help her with that. My bio kids would still get dibs.

Everyone’s mad, except my husband, and we said we would talk to them.

But it’s still like I feel bad, yet I wouldn’t want to give them something that my bio kids might want because it’s actually connected to them and a part of their DNA.

So, AITAH?

Who is being unreasonable here, the stepmom or the mom?

Let’s read the responses of other people on Reddit to this story.

This person thinks she should appreciate being asked.

This user gives their honest opinion.

She is just a kid, says this person.

Uh oh! People are calling her out.

Finally, here’s a valid point.

What matters most is making every child feel loved and included.

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