December 3, 2025 at 4:15 pm

Young Woman Has Halloween Plans With Her Friends, But Her Parents Demanded The She Attend Her Cousin’s Birthday That Also Falls On Halloween

by Heide Lazaro

Girls enjoying their Halloween party

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Balancing family obligations and personal commitments can be tricky.

This young woman has a cousin whose birthday always falls on Halloween.

Her dad demanded she attend the birthday instead of her Halloween party with friends.

So now, she feels guilty for choosing one over the other.

Check out the full story below and weigh in.

AITA for going to a Halloween party?

Every year, my cousin’s birthday falls on Halloween.

Every year, my mom drives two hours to go see her.

Every year, she goes up on Halloween.

This young woman had never personally gone to her cousin’s birthday,

I (18F) have never personally gone.

I would be fine going up some other day.

October 30th or November 1st, that’s fine with me.

But October 31st is the one night a year that I always have plans, and I feel I’ve made this well known.

I tell my mom every year that I’d love to go, but not on Halloween.

Her dad demanded that she go to her cousin’s birthday celebration this year.

Anyways, this year I’m going to a friend’s party.

It’s just a couple of people, but my dad sat me down this morning and told me I have to go to my cousin’s birthday.

I told him I had made plans and that I wanted to stay here.

And he just said, “You’re going.”

Now, she’s conflicted because she has another party to attend.

Honestly, I feel a bit guilty that I’m not going to my cousin’s birthday.

I feel it every year.

But I’m always really busy on Halloween.

AITA?

Let’s read other people’s responses.

This user shares their personal thoughts.

Screenshot 2025 11 08 at 8.12.39 PM Young Woman Has Halloween Plans With Her Friends, But Her Parents Demanded The She Attend Her Cousins Birthday That Also Falls On Halloween

Here’s a similar comment from this one.

Screenshot 2025 11 08 at 8.13.09 PM Young Woman Has Halloween Plans With Her Friends, But Her Parents Demanded The She Attend Her Cousins Birthday That Also Falls On Halloween

This person celebrates their birthday on a different day.

Screenshot 2025 11 08 at 8.13.48 PM Young Woman Has Halloween Plans With Her Friends, But Her Parents Demanded The She Attend Her Cousins Birthday That Also Falls On Halloween

Here’s another valid point.

Screenshot 2025 11 08 at 8.14.26 PM Young Woman Has Halloween Plans With Her Friends, But Her Parents Demanded The She Attend Her Cousins Birthday That Also Falls On Halloween

Go party, says this one.

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If only you could be in two places at once.

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Heide Lazaro is a veteran human-interest writer and digital culture expert with over a decade of experience in editorial strategy. Specializing in lifestyle, social dynamics, and the internet's most compelling stories, Heide has authored and published more than 10 books online. Beyond her daily reporting, she is a dedicated motivational speaker who helps audiences connect through the power of storytelling. When she isn't sifting through the web's wildest real-life drama, Heide is an avid runner, painter, and novel-enthusiast fueled by a truly excellent cup of coffee.