At 19, most people are figuring out how to be independent, but not all parents make it easy.

One young man was excited about the possibility of meeting one of his long-distance friends for the first time. So when his friend offered to over expenses, the whole thing felt like a no-brainer.

But little did he know, his overprotective mother would have very different ideas about the trip. And she would stop at nothing to dissuade him from taking it.

Keep reading to find out how it all played out.

WIBTA if i went out of state for a trip against my moms wishes

I (19M) have known my long distance friend — let’s call him Steve (21M) — for almost 2 years now.

He recently brought up paying for me to take the Greyhound to come visit, as well as providing me a hotel.

But some of his family doesn’t think it’s the best idea.

Here’s the issue — I still live with my mother (48F) who thinks the world is a lot more dangerous than it is.

She thinks I’m going to get hurt.

She even threatens to punish him if he goes through with the trip.

She won’t even let me use the local bus system without threatening “consequences” — she has not specified what those consequences are.

She worries so much to the point where I can’t be independent.

Now he isn’t sure where to go from here.

I really just want to meet my friend and be able to have more freedom, but maybe there’s something I’m missing.

AITA?

This son and mother need to get back on the same page.

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What did Reddit think?

Maybe he’ll never find the independence he’s after while living under his mother’s roof.

On the other hand, maybe his mother does have a point.

There are a few risk factors here that are worth seeing clearly.

Maybe part of a parent’s job is to be protective of their children.

Being 19 and still negotiating basic independence can be completely exhausting, but there are two sides to this story.

It makes sense that this young man wants to go see his friend, but it also makes sense that, as his mother, she would point out a few potential red flags.

Is threatening vague punishment the best parenting approach, of course not. But this young man would be wise to still head the warning regardless.

Surely there’s a compromise here, they just have to work a little harder to find it.