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Having demands when you’re getting something for free is usually not a good look. But what happens when someone who’s cooking for you keeps making stuff you can’t eat or just don’t like?

In this case, a 19-year-old says his mom has known for years that curry makes him feel sick. She also plans meals days in advance and used to work as a chef.

Yet, she made chicken curry for dinner without telling him. And it was late and nothing else was opened. In a small town.

The house was also practically empty ahead of the next big grocery trip (a cautionary tale).

When his mom served the curry and expected him to thank her, he admitted he didn’t feel grateful for a meal he couldn’t eat.

She called him ungrateful, and now he’s wondering if he really is.

Read the full story below.

AITA for refusing to eat the curry my mum made and telling her I’m not thankful?

I (M19) and my mum (F48) just had an argument where she accused me of being ungrateful.

She made chicken curry for dinner tonight. My family has known for years that I hate curry, the smell and taste genuinely make me feel physically sick.

I’m not a picky eater at all, I’ll eat almost anything else, including plenty of things my parents won’t touch. The only curry I can stomach is Thai red.

My mum doesn’t throw meals together last minute.

She plans dinners days in advance and genuinely loves cooking.

She didn’t remember his distaste for curry, though.

This wasn’t an “oops, nothing else in the house” situation. She knew I wouldn’t eat it, but made it the main meal anyway.

Worth saying, I can cook fine, that’s not the issue.

We just don’t usually do separate meals, it’s cheaper on both food and electricity for one person to cook for the whole house, and my mum loves cooking (she used to be a chef, trained under a Michelin star chef), so she does the vast majority of it.

That’s normally a good arrangement. Tonight it just meant I had no fallback when the one meal being made was something I can’t eat.

He is hangry.

I didn’t find out until it was actually served.

I was outside working in a converted shed/outbuilding attached to the house, I use it as a work area because the house itself is so noisy you can hear people talking two floors away so I can’t focus inside.

So I had no idea what she was cooking until dinner was already on the table.

My real issue isn’t even that she made curry. It’s that she didn’t tell me what she was planning.

He wasn’t warned.

Earlier today I’d gone to the corner shop to get milk for her. If I’d known curry was on the menu, I’d have grabbed something for myself while I was there.

And it’s not like I could just throw something else together once I found out.

We do a big shop once a month, most of our meat, fruit, veg and honey comes from a local farm, and we only hit the supermarket for small extras.

Right now, the house has herbs, spices, flour, milk, sugar, salt, pepper, butter, and some sauces. That’s it.

There’s literally nothing of sustenance.

No meat, no bread, no eggs, no cereal, no fruit, and no vegetables and even if I wanted to be unhealthy there isn’t even crisps, chocolate, ice cream, or biscuits.

There is quite literally nothing else edible in the house, and our next big shop isn’t until tomorrow.

It’s late, we live in a small village with no takeaways that deliver, the shop’s closed, and I’ve no way to get to town. I have literally zero options.

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When I picked up the plate, she said “you’re welcome” waiting for me to say thanks (I always thank her for food she makes), when I didn’t respond and went to leave the kitchen, she stood in the doorway and said “aren’t you gonna say thank you?”

I told her I wasn’t thankful for a meal she knew I couldn’t eat without being sick, so she called me ungrateful.

AITA?

I’d be upset too, especially after being called ungrateful while feeling hangry. What did Reddit think?

A reader shares their thoughts.

A parent shares their perspective.

True.

Another commenter chimes in.

If you enjoyed this story, check out this post about a woman who finally blew up after years of being treated as the second-best sibling.

Someone went through something similar.

She could’ve just said “I forgot, I’m sorry”, but she made him feel guilty for not being able to eat something. That’s just wrong.

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