Jealousy has a way of turning small situations into big problems.

A man who shared a friend group with his best friend and his best friend’s girlfriend found a natural hangout partner in her — both night owls, both down to keep the party going after concerts while everyone else went home to sleep.

At first, his best friend knew and gave his blessing, but one day, something shifted. After another 2 AM hangout, he berated them both, seemingly accusing them of some kind of wrongdoing.

Despite claiming to trust them both, this seemed to be a dealbreaker for him.

One very uncomfortable conversation later, this man is still trying to figure out what exactly he’s supposed to do next.

Read on — this one’s messy.

AITA for hanging out with my best friend’s girlfriend?

Me, my best friend, and his girlfriend are in a group of friends who love to go to music shows and festivals.

Shows are usually done at 11-12 PM.

This is where the group diverges a bit.

After the show, I’m always down to go to a bar or hang at my place to keep the night going.

But my friends are always tired since they are all early birds.

However, me and my best friend’s girlfriend are always down to keep going.

There is no attraction whatsoever, but we just have great chemistry.

So one night, the two hung out because they were having so much fun.

After I invited everyone to my place and everyone said no except the girlfriend, my best friend of 8 years told me to have fun.

She stayed at my place until 2-3 AM.

Absolutely nothing happened, and nothing will — because we’re not attracted to each other, and second, we wouldn’t do anything to jeopardize our relationship with him.

But his friend didn’t seem to care about this at all.

Yet he berated us both on how this wasn’t normal, it’s unacceptable, and it should never happen again.

I asked him if he trusted me — he said yes.

I asked if he trusted his girlfriend — also yes.

So I asked him what the big deal was, since nothing will happen.

Now he isn’t sure how to proceed.

I’m torn.

Yes, I want to respect him, but I genuinely have a great time with her and she’s the only one who wants to stay up 90% of the time.

Again, 100% platonic.

AITA for not wanting to lose those moments because of my best friend’s confidence and trust issues?

Sounds like some jealousy issues may be to blame here.

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What did Reddit have to say?

For the sake of the friendship, he may have to put a stop to these hangouts.

This commenter isn’t really sure how to feel.

This user is getting a little suspicious.

Sometimes you just have to put yourself in someone else’s shoes.

Some friend group dynamics are simple, but others involve a best friend who says he trusts you and then acts like he doesn’t. That contradiction is the source of the issue.

Insecurity is a real thing and it deserves some grace. But packaging it as a boundary when the trust is already broken isn’t going to get you far.

Eight years of friendship can handle an honest conversation about what’s actually going on. What it probably can’t handle is a rule that doesn’t make sense going unquestioned indefinitely.

His friend needs to say what he really thinks or just drop it.