Helping others is kind, but it can sometimes become overwhelming.

In this story, a woman was asked to regularly drive an elderly friend home from work.

While her friend is kind and means well, the requests were becoming more frequent and time-consuming.

So now, she feels conflicted between wanting to help and needing to protect her own time.

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AITA for refusing to drive my elderly friend home from work

I am conflicted about whether or not I should commit to being a regular “driver” for my elderly friend.

She needs someone to pick her up from work once or twice a month.

She works three days a week. She depends on friends to take her to and from work.

I am being asked because one person can no longer take her home one of the days.

This woman met her elderly friend in a bible study.

I work from home. It is a 35-minute drive one way for me to pick her up.

Then, I have to take her to her home, which is 10 minutes from my place.

I met this person at a small bible study about two years ago.

I believe she has a good heart.

She is happy to help her friend out, but her requests are time-consuming.

She has asked favors in the past. I am happy to help her out.

My fear is that the asks are getting more and more time-intensive.

I know she appreciates the help.

But I do not want to become the backup person for all the things she needs.

Now, she’s torn between helping out and setting boundaries.

I am learning how to set boundaries for myself.

I cannot shake the guilty feeling of saying no.

I am deliberating the difference between helping out and taking on responsibilities that are not mine.

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Finally, short and simple.

Sometimes, helping means knowing where to draw the line before it becomes a responsibility.

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