Fighting over kids after divorce is rarely just about the kids, it’s often grief, anger, control or old wounds coming out. But sometimes, it really is rooted in the child’s best interest, even if that best interest is being fought over on a battlefield.

How would you handle your spouse shirking responsibility for your child’s health needs? One woman recently shared a crazy story about this on Reddit. Here’s what she said.

AITA for telling my kids’ dad he needs to provide his own EpiPen during his visitation?

I (27F) have two kids with my ex (31M), ages 2 and 4.

We recently went to court, and I was awarded primary custody as the domiciliary parent.

He was given supervised visitation every other Saturday.

That’s a tough dynamic to take on after the kids are a certain age.

He currently does not have a job or any plans to get one.

When the judge ordered him to pay $170/month in child support for both kids, he asked, “What happens if I don’t pay it?”

Before his first visit, I let him know that our 2-year-old wears size 3-4 pull-ups and has allergies, including reactions to certain off-brand products.

Really something he should be stepping up to handle.

He asked if those would already be in her bag.

I told him I would send a few pull-ups, a change of clothes for both kids, and their cups for now, but that going forward he would need to provide those things during his time.

After the visit, I noticed our daughter was starting to get a rash, so I asked what she ate.

That’s a wildly stressful situation.

He answered, but then asked why her EpiPen wasn’t in the bag.

I checked immediately and took a picture showing that it was in the bag.

He still insisted it wasn’t there.

You’d think they’d have more than one.

I told him that going forward, he needs to provide his own supplies for the kids during his visitation including an EpiPen so he always has access to what she needs.

To be clear: I have every intention of making sure my daughter has access to her medication.

I’m not trying to withhold it, I just want him to take responsibility and have what’s needed while the kids are in his care.

Any sensible person would understand that.

He argues that since it’s her prescription, it belongs to her and I have to provide it.

I told him that regardless, each parent should be responsible for providing what the children need during their own time.

He also does not contribute to medical expenses.

You’d think this would be something he WANTS to do.

I’m not trying to be difficult.

I just want him to step up as a parent.

AITA for expecting him to provide his own supplies, including an EpiPen, during his visitation?

Sounds like this guy might be allergic to being an involved parent. Let’s see how the Reddit jury weighed in here.

The comments were largely baffled at the court decision.

One person tried to offer a solution.

Another drew from their own experience.

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Someone else broke the hard truth.

However, some took a far less sympathetic approach.

It takes a village to prevent an allergic reaction.