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Imagine owning a house that has a fence around the backyard separating your house from your neighbor’s house. If you were in your backyard and overheard your neighbor talking to someone, would you mind your own business or listen in and share your thoughts with your neighbor about what you heard?

In this story, one woman is in this situation, and she decides to send the neighbor a text to share her thoughts.

Now, she’s wondering if that was the wrong thing to do.

Keep reading for all the details.

AITAH for asking my neighbors to be mindful of their conversations?

I’m wondering if I’m the ah for reaching out to my neighbor about a conversation I overheard in their backyard.

For context, we are in a city of row homes and our backyards touch each other.

I’ve been really frustrated with them for sometime, but I’ve only ever said anything when it’s seemed necessary.

Here are two examples.

For example, last summer they removed all the paint from their house to repaint it, didn’t say anything to us and didn’t take measures to contain their mess.

My daughter’s pool, all our plants and the ground were covered in their paint chips.

I wrote them a nice letter with my number asking them to just give me a heads up next time, especially since I was pregnant at the time and it’s too much for me to clean up.

Another time several years ago they were not containing their cigarette butts and they were rolling it’s my garden under the fence, so I asked them (over the fence) if they could contain them.

She was disturbed by what she overheard.

So now, I overheard a conversation between who I believed was the wife of the house and an older gentleman.

I don’t think it was intended to be mean spirited in nature, but that’s how it sounded, particularly if my older daughter had been back there with us.

Attached are the text I sent to the husband (I don’t have the wife’s number) and the letter the wife left on my fence with tape.

I hear what she is saying about privacy and boundaries, but they haven’t shown any forethought in how their behaviors affect other people. I also haven’t said anything about their chain smoking which has drastically limited me and my daughters’ time in our backyard.

So, AITAH for saying something?

Is contacting a neighbor about something you heard over the fence the neighborly thing to do, or should she mind her own business?

Let’s see what Reddit thinks.

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This is definitely easier.

Another person thinks she should’ve stayed out of it.

This is true.

If you enjoyed this story, check out this post about neighbors who have to set a firm boundary with neighbors who ask too many child-related favors.

Here’s a suggestion.

Eavesdropping is not okay. Sure, that may not have been what she was trying it do, but it’s what she ultimately did.

The suggestion of playing music when she’s outside with her kids is a good idea. Not only would it prevent them from hearing any potentially inappropriate conversations at the neighbor’s house, but it would also alert the neighbors that someone is outside, possibly causing the neighbors to take their conversation inside.

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Jayne Elliott

Jayne Elliott | Contributing Writer, Life & Drama

Jayne Elliott is a contributing writer and editor for TwistedSifter specializing in human interest stories, internet culture, and family dynamics. With over 12 years of editorial experience in digital publishing, Jayne excels at analyzing complex online communities and transforming viral social debates into thoughtful, highly engaging narratives.

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