Two Work Meetings Landed on Her Approved Vacation. Instead of Canceling It, She Asked to Work Remotely.
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Imagine working for a company that gives you vacation time. If you requested certain days off to use that vacation time and made your travel arrangements, what would you do if your supervisor told you that you actually had to go into the office during that time because you had to attend a couple meetings that were scheduled during your time off?
Would you cancel your vacation?
In this story, one woman finds herself in that exact situation, so she asks if she can work remotely. Her supervisor doesn’t simply say yes or no. She says several things that are quite disturbing and makes the employee want a different supervisor.
Keep reading for the whole story.
AITAH for requesting to be moved to a different supervisor after mine acted unprofessional
I 24F work for a large company.
I had a week of scheduled vacation time but the week prior, I had two emergent meetings scheduled during my vacation that I was required to attend.
Both meetings required extensive preparation beforehand so I was loosing at least 8 hrs of my vacation to do so.
Along with that, I was behind in my own work after a problem at work so I was planning to do an additional 8 hrs during my vacation.
This seems like a reasonable request.
We had a 2 day work from home policy that was take away a couple months ago but you can still work from home with supervisor approval.
So, I asked my supervisor if they would approve 2 days WFH during my vacation due to the reasons above.
They instantly said no and asked me to be onsite, even though they knew I would be out of state.
We jumped on a call to discuss and they pretty much flipped on me, please enjoy some of the following quotes “You backed me into a corner and I can’t say no” “I can’t say no otherwise you’ll be mad at me” “You put me into a terrible position where I don’t have a choice” “It’s like you put a knife to my throat and I can’t say no”
I agree that it was unsettling.
I found the entire conversation to be completely unprofessional, along with the last line being extremely triggering to someone with severe depression which they are aware of.
After that conversation and experiencing some retaliation the following day, I requested to be moved to a new supervisor.
The issue was never reported to HR, only upper management who said they do not move people for personal problems but would see what they could do.
Well, here we are 2 months later and nothing has changed.
She really wants a different supervisor.
Would I be TAH if I report this to HR to try and have them move me to one of the other 8 supervisor in my department?
Is this even a legitimate reason to be moved or am I overreacting?
I don’t want to leave the department but I feel like I won’t have any choice unless they move me to a different supervisor.
I cannot continue working in a toxic environment without risking my mental health
First of all, she shouldn’t be expected to work during her vacation. Second, if she’s willing to work remotely, she shouldn’t be made to feel bad about going on the vacation she already got approval for and already planned. I don’t blame her for wanting a different supervisor.
Let’s see if Reddit agrees.
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Here’s a vote for going to HR.
But this person wouldn’t go to HR right away.
Another person points out the real problem.
If you enjoyed this story, check out this post about a longtime bank customer who walked away after the teller gave them a hard time.
This person thinks she needs to learn to say “no.”
She should not work during her vacation. That’s unacceptable. She shouldn’t answer her phone if there is a work call. She shouldn’t check her work email. She’s on vacation. She’s not in the office. They’ll have to survive without her.
That said, I don’t blame her for wanting a different supervisor. Her supervisor is awful.
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