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Imagine being a single woman living on your own, and your upstairs neighbor is a single man. If he were making a lot of noise in his condo, and if that noise really bothered you, would you feel safe going upstairs and confronting him about the situation?

The woman who wrote this story doesn’t feel safe doing that, but she does want the man who lives in the condo above her to quit making this irritating thudding sound. She doesn’t know what’s causing it. She just wants it to stop.

But how can she ask him to stop without actually talking to him? That’s the dilemma.

Let’s read all about it.

HOA Won’t Help

My upstairs neighbor at a condo was making thud sounds. Sometimes like last weekend and a year ago, the thuds are like on steroids.

They caused my light fixture cover to fall down it was so bad.

Most days, it’s a random thud here and there throughout the day.

At night there are softer thuds that happen constantly, a few times a minute.

She doesn’t want to confront the neighbor.

I messaged my HOA, essentially begging them to at least give my upstairs neighbor a notice. I just want it to stop.

It took them a week, but I got a reply saying the property manager that I will “want to” go up and knock on their door first before any violations can be issued.

I explained in my first email that this is exactly what I do NOT want to do. I told them I am a single female. This is clearly a man. These days, you can’t be too careful. I don’t know them and I don’t know how they would react to any sort of feedback of how they live their personal life. I do not even know what causes these thuds. Is it a disability, are they exercising?

I am wondering what to do next.

She has thought of a few options.

Should I involve my local law enforcement to knock on their door for me?

Or should I wait and see if it gets really bad again to go that route. Like the “thuds on steroids” where they are near-constant, sounds like they are running and jumping.

Should I leave a note at their door?

Either option, I worry about them retaliating. Whether it’s taking the thuds to a next level, turning some complaint on me, coming down to knock on my door?

She doesn’t want to move.

Or should I “suck it up” and hope it gets better. Hope they move or stop doing whatever this is.

I am at my wit’s end.

I bought this place a year ago. I hate moving and obviously since I am a homeowner in a horrible buyer’s climate, I can’t just sell and find something within my budget. I intend on staying here for years and years.

I wonder what’s making the thudding sounds.

Let’s see what Reddit suggests.

Here’s a suggestion of what to tell the HOA.

Another person agrees that the HOA should handle this situation.

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This person has a theory about what’s causing the noise.

Here’s another idea. Does she have any guy friends who might look kind of intimidating who could pose at her boyfriend and talk to the neighbor on her behalf? But really, it’d be nice if the HOA would handle it for her.

I really wonder what’s causing the noise.