When you’re a parent, a lot of the adults you’ll end up spending time with will be the parents of your kids’ friends.

In this story, one mom decides to introduce herself to a family whose kids go to school with her kids. The kids are friends, so she thought it would be nice to meet the parents and exchange numbers so they could set up a playdate.

She thought it went well at first, but when she sent the other mom a text later, she realized her dreams of new friends and playdates with the kids were not going to happen.

Keep reading for all the details and to decide if you think she did anything wrong.

AITA for introducing myself to some neighbors?

So for context these people live down the road and their kids (9&6) ride the bus with mine (8&6).

My kids talk about their kids all the time. My daughter and their son even exchanged stuffed animals for valentine’s day, like little sweet hearts.

The kids have been asking for several months if we could visit them.

I decided we’d drive down yesterday and I’d introduce myself, give them my number so we could set up a play date.

She decided to introduce herself.

Only the dad and kids were there when we stopped by, we talked and exchanged numbers and the kids played for about 20-30 minutes before we left.

My youngest son and their youngest son even hugged goodbye.

I thought it was a really nice introduction, I was really hoping we could be friends with their family.

I text the mom this morning because I wanted to make sure she had my number and we could talk about getting the kids together to play.

The the mom was not at all receptive to setting up a playdate.

She replied several hours later telling me she didn’t want her son being around girls outside of school and they were old fashioned and it was inappropriate for me to show up at their house unannounced and to never do that again or else, because “that’s not how things are done around here”.

I’m just generally confused I really just wanted our families to be friends we have kids all the same ages. I don’t know how I should have handled it to introduce myself differently.

I just replied to her text with “sorry to have bothered you I’ll tell my kids not to bother your kids anymore sorry”

I spent alot of the afternoon crying especially since I had to tell my kids they couldn’t be friends with them anymore and they were heart broken.

She’s really confused.

We live out in the country and all our neighbors we’ve met so far have all just driven over and introduced themselves.

I don’t know what I did wrong.

When we stopped by, the dad didn’t act like we were bothering them or we shouldn’t have come over we had a really nice chat. I thought he would really hit it off with my husband.

I told my husband when he got home that evening it be great to have them over for a BBQ I genuinely thought we might be able to be friends I just don’t understand why she was so upset or what I did wrong.

I wonder if it would’ve been different if the mom had been home when she dropped by. Perhaps she was upset that a stranger showed up when just her husband was home?

It doesn’t sound like they’re going to be friends.

Let’s see how Reddit responded.

This person urges OP not to blame herself.

One person thinks the other mom might be jealous.

Here’s a suggestion to talk to other neighbors.

One person thinks there could be a bigger problem.

I hope there isn’t anything going on at that home, such as abuse. That seems like an extreme conclusion to jump to.

I’m not sure why the other mom was so upset that OP dropped by. She was trying to be nice and neighborly.

It’s sad when your dreams are crushed, and you don’t even understand why.